Wedding Invites

kate382

Ok, so my parents are paying for the wedding reception.  My fiance's parents are paying for the DJ, photographer, and videographer.  My mom thinks that I should write the invitations like, "Brides parents invite you to the wedding of Katie and Fred, son of groom's parents."  My fiance thinks that I should put, "brides parents and grooms parents inivite you to..."  Anyone know what the etiquette is for this situation?

[Deleted User]

Ditto. Since both parents are hosting, both parents names should be on the invite.

skippylouwho

Why not

You are cordially invited to the marriage ceremony of
Mary
daughter of Thomas and Agalene Morrow
and
Jackson
son of Joseph and Stephanie Smucker

tenofcups4me

Since the DJ, photographer, and videographer are a substantial portion of wedding expenses (in my case, the band and photographer for my first wedding cost almost as much as the food and bar for the reception), I'd list them both at the top. I think "son of" makes most sense when the groom's parents are either not contributing or contributing minimally, but it sounds like the groom's parents are contributing quite a bit in your case.

PharmacyBride

How does his parents feel about the issue?  Some parents of the groom are fine with just having their names listed after his as "son of Mr. & Mrs. XYZ"

Personally, I think if his parents are contributing at all, they should be listed as a host- it is respectful to both.

The parents don't have to contribute equally to be considered hosts.. but I can see your mom's frustrations (she will likely foot a bill 3-4x greater).  Just tell her adding his parents' names don't take away from her contribution- it just gives them an opportunity to honor both parents.  Then follow this with a million TYs and don't be shy to let her know how much you appreciate her generous gift!

TTiger03

I would go with your FI's suggestion as FIL's are also hosting (as mentioned above), but if it will cause family drama it might be best to word it as skippylouwho suggested.

It sounds to me like all the parents are trying to help make your wedding the day you want, so it would be nice to include them all.  The food and venue are a big expence, but your reception wouldn't be the same without the contributions your FIL's are making as well.

loop0406

What about
Together with our parents

without naming them

srkropf

It sounds like they're both hosting/paying equally, so I would list it brides/grooms parents... However if you're groom's parents are more traditional and are okay with the brides parents............groom, parents... then go with it. (Sorry if this is confusing, I've been drinking a bit)