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Jen4948

Unfortunately, unless your daughter and her fiance want to reschedule their wedding, there is no "way to handle this" other than letting it go and realizing that because of the cousin, some of the fiance's family very likely won't be at theirs.  They don't get to insist that that date be reserved for them alone or that anyone attend their wedding.

Avion22

Unfortunatley, there is nothing they can do.  The fiancee's family will have to choose which wedding to attend, and there will probably be lots of factors including how easy or difficult it is to travel to each (DC vs. Canada), when they last saw the bride and groom (they might be more inclined to attend the wedding of the couple they see less frequently), who they get along with better, and which other family members are attending which wedding.  

Honestly, the BEST thing they can do is be gracious and not make a big deal out of it.  

MrsGandthebeag

Did your daughter and her FI send a STD to his cousin?  

Lisa50

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cousin-picked-same-weekend-for-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cc0c562c-5d77-477f-9723-f7f86ec62bb2Post:68d6c041-b6db-43b5-b587-bffce7ed9c5d">Re: cousin picked same weekend for wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Unfortunatley, there is nothing they can do.  The fiancee's family will have to choose which wedding to attend, and there will probably be lots of factors including how easy or difficult it is to travel to each (DC vs. Canada), when they last saw the bride and groom (they might be more inclined to attend the wedding of the couple they see less frequently), who they get along with better, and which other family members are attending which wedding.   <font color="#0000FF"><strong>Honestly, the BEST thing they can do is be gracious and not make a big deal out of it.</strong></font>  
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As well, it's really a waste of time and energy for them to be so angry.  People choose between social events all the time.  That's life.  They need to move on.

Peledreamsofrain

Why do they need to DO anything about this? Are they that interested in causing a possibly permenant family rift over a date? There are many reasons that that date could have been picked. If it's a seriously good reason, then all of you look like massively selfish jerks. Your choice. If I were you i'd be spending more energy on being happy about the positive aspects of the wedding rather than plotting some kind of family shunning.

april4354

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cousin-picked-same-weekend-for-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cc0c562c-5d77-477f-9723-f7f86ec62bb2Post:9cb8e1b3-a35c-46b4-ba74-7c1a06abd5bc">Re:cousin picked same weekend for wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Why do they need to DO anything about this? Are they that interested in causing a possibly permenant family rift over a date? There are many reasons that that date could have been picked. If it's a seriously good reason, then all of you look like massively selfish jerks. Your choice. If I were you i'd be spending more energy on being happy about the positive aspects of the wedding rather than plotting some kind of family shunning.
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You are being very judgementa. without knowing my daughter and fiancee.  They are both sensitive and kind people.  I only put this question out to be given quality and constructive advise.  

Chloeagh

So, I'm honestly curious about something. When people complain about a family wedding being near their date, everyone says, "You get one day, they get one day." Sometimes it's expanded to, "You get one weekend." And yet on this thread, apparently that's no longer true? I think it is completely understandable to be upset that a cousin scheduled a wedding for the same day after STDs were sent out. I don't know what you can do about it, but it was pretty crappy of the cousin to pull that on you, and hopefully the family sees that.