Shower gifts... when to open??

lat1019

I posted this on the June board but someone suggested I post here as well...


I am having two showers, one in Boston (where my fiance is from) and one in DC where we live and my family is from. The shower in Boston is next weekend and we have been getting gifts for the past three weeks. My soon-to-be mother in-law thinks I should open the presents before I come so I can thank people. My mother and fiance think I should wait till after the shower. The thought is people will give us a card with a picture in it or something like that. So what should I do?? Also, I read that once you recieve a shower gift you have two weeks to send a thank you card. I would already be over that time frame for some of the gifts. The problem is I don't know everyone invited to the Boston shower so what if the gift was for the wedding but it was on sale so they bought it early?? Ahhh any suggestions??

Mrs.B6302007

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aMrsin09

I would open the gifts that you have received at the house.  You need to ensure that nothing is broken.  Then write a Thank You.  Do not use gifts until after the wedding.

If you get additional gifts at the Boston Shower, open those there and then when you get home get the Than Yous out as soon as possible.

whitneykaye87

If they're giving you a photo of the gift, I'd just wait until the shower.  Wouldn't it kind of ruin the point of opening things in front of everyone if they all know you've opened them and sent thank you notes?

Open after shower, then send notes.