is it ok to let someone know they can bring their S/O after the fact?

packlite

Here's a question that's been on my mind this week.  Our invite have gone our and RSVP deadline is this week.  I invited a childhood friend of mine, her mother, and her older sister.  I COMPLETELY forgot the sister was engaged (mainly b/c there is drame behind that and last I heard he was not welcomed in the family's home).  But, now I am wondering - should I just let it go?  OR should I email my friend's sister to let her know that her FI is welcome to join?  Its kind of late in the game, but I know it was my mistake.

AmoroAgain

If you're close enough to her that you could explain that you had forgotten and if you don't care about adding to the chaos of whatever is going on behind the scenes, then I'd say send her an email.  If you explain the mistake, I'm sure she'll be fine and happy to know that not everyone is against her relationship.

[Deleted User]

Ditto amoro. I think that as long as you express to her in one way or the other that he is invited and welcome, things will be fine. People make mistakes and hopefully she will understand with the other bazillions of things you have going on, that it just slipped your mind about inviting him.

packlite

thanks ladies, i just sent her a note to her know he was welcome to join and that it was my oversight for not including in the invitations.  so many little things popping up this week and things i forgot about...whew!