I need your address

audreymchan

I am trying to gather the addresses of friends, some of which I see regularly, some that are cross country.  In this day in age, I don't keep an address book. 

Can I Facebook them (in mass or individual) or Text them?

Dear Friend,
Can I have your address?
Thank you,
X

emeejeeayen

I think you're over thinking this

vanityink

It's what I did for friends I didn't have info for (mostly a facebook message "Hey, I'm getting ready to send out invites/STDs/etc. Could I get your address?"

ftrmrsweatherdon

When I was looking for addresses I did a mass message, most people ignored it. After our engagement party, i wanted to send thank you's to people who brought us wine or a card. I then either emailed for FB'd them individually.

Do whatever works best for you. People don't care if you send it over facebook. Getting the address doesn't have to be formal.

StephJean83

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-need-your-address?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ce8906f0-a669-45f1-b3de-25c6afcf860cPost:0d5e6f9b-01dd-44ad-b148-6f57e11e8f59">I need your address</a>:
[QUOTE]I am trying to gather the addresses of friends, some of which I see regularly, some that are cross country.  In this day in age, I don't keep an address book.  Can I Facebook them (in mass or individual) or Text them? Dear Friend, Can I have your address? Thank you, X
Posted by audreymchan[/QUOTE]

I've had plenty of friends FB, text or call for my address. I've been known to FB or text my friends for their addresses for Christmas cards or invites to at home parties. There are online address books that you set up your profile at and send the link for your friends and family to fill in their info for you.

One thing I will say, is if you send it saying it is for wedding invites or STDs, make sure you have your finalized list. My FH has had plenty of friends FB saying, "Hey its that time! Sally and I are sending out STDs/Invites and we need your address!" He gives them his address and than never gets invited. He doesn't think that is rude or anything but I have always thought that it is rude to say, "Hey we need your address so we can invite you" but than not actually invite you for whatever reason.

Jen4948

It'll probably be more effective to send each person a separate message rather than send one group message, but do whatever will work best.  The important thing is that you get the snail mail addresses.

achiduck

I was lucky that my brother and dad both got married the year before H and I so I got all of our family addresses from them. I got married in October and managed to gather a lot of addresses the year before so I could send out Christmas cards. FB, e-mail, text it's not a big deal and it doesn't have to be formal.

I would send individual messages though since some people may accidentally "reply all" and inadvertently send their address to a group of people they don't know.

harper0813

There's also a fabulous website called Postable (just google it) and it sends out emails to people and they fill out their contact information on a website for you - so you have an online address book which you can then export into an Excel file or whatever is easiest for you!

emeejeeayen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_i-need-your-address?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ce8906f0-a669-45f1-b3de-25c6afcf860cPost:ce5a8f42-bf45-4c92-a089-d2b92ce2f908">Re:I need your address</a>:
[QUOTE]Personally, I don't usually respond to mass messages like that because a. I don't need everyone on the list having my address and b. it seems incredibly impersonal and lazy. Send individual messages or call them.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>This, but also, even if it's not a conscious decision to ignore mass messages, it's easier to respond in kind with laziness. I know when I get them I tend to feel like, "Oh, I'll answer that later," and then I forget. </div>

audreymchan

The best part of gathering the addresses via FB is that the "thread" is all neat and tidy in one email.  I almost have 50% reply rate, pretty good in one hour.
The "reply all" is seen by everybody but then again, you know that before sending.  If you want to hide your private address you can send them a private message.

I don't think its impersonal or lazy.  I think its smart.  I was more worried about this being the etiquette thread if this was TACKY.  That's all.

All of my friends know each other.  I wouldn't group friends that didn't know friends, and my list is small. 
I don't randomly send out requests for games or start chain mail, so I would think if a friend asked something of you, then you would reply. 

Again thats for all the feedback.  I had family on Excel, its just the friends that were missing.