So my and my fiance are throwing around the idea of both changing our last name. Its not set in stone but we are thinking seriously about it. The reason why is because his last name is Harter but everyone cant help but pronounce it "harder". Not the worst thing in the world but Im a teacher and I really dont want to be "Mrs. Harder "for the rest of my life. If i ever decide to teach high school it will be a nightmare. Also, my fiance had a rough time in school being teased about his last name and we both want to try and spare our future kids that as much as we can. We are thinking of changing both of our last names to Harther, which was his families original last name before they came to America and it was changed.
My question is, if we choose to go this route, how do we handle telling people. Do we include it in the ceremony somehow, do we put it on the invites, do we just not mention it and tell people as it comes up? I dont really want part of our ceremony to be like "the bride and groom have decide to both change their name because they dislike the old one!" lol but I cant think of a good way to incorporate it.
Any ideas? thoughts?