B-List invites... is it too late?

molls332233

So we have gotten 99% of our RSVPS back, and we have some room to invite some more people to the wedding.

Is it too late to sent out invites to our B-List? (only about 10-15 guests on B-List)

Our wedding is June 17th, so RSVP date would be June 1st.

waltzingmatilda13

Any time is the wrong time for b lists. It's rude, so please just don't do it. 

badkittyct

B-lists are rude. Skip it.

hlq2011

B List is technically against etiquette.

That said, we're doing it, and inviting some coworkers and friends who knew they weren't on the initial guest list but voiced an interest in coming if we had space.

I think you're okay time-wise, but I wouldn't do it, unless it's something like ours.  The people we're inviting know the situation and are okay with it; I wouldn't do a broader second round of invitations.

kgettingmarried

No b-list.  If people aren't important enough to make the first cut, don't invite them just to fill seats left by those who RSVP'd no.  It's tacky and rude and people will feel like you're just inviting them to get them to give you a gift.

If you invite anyone with 3 wks notice, of course they'll know they are a b-list invite.  Everyone knows you're supposed to get at least 6 wks notice for wedding invites.

[Deleted User]

Ditto the others. It is a bad idea, don't do it. It is rude and just looks gift grabby.

And besides, people aren't stupid. They know when invites typically go out and if they receive one close to the wedding and/or rsvp date, they are going to know they were B-listed.

specialk84

Please don't do this.

molls332233

oh boy, looks like im not having a B-List! i just felt bad because FI didnt get to invite some of his friends because we were cutting is close with 148 guests on the list!

beltows4

i know how you feel about the b list...there are some friends we want to invite but couldn't due to having to invite family first (both fiance and i have LARGE families)...so if that's the case, maybe it can be considered ok?

Rosie109

Its never too late to be tacky!

Rosie109

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_b-list-invites-late?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d084f0f3-b5be-4600-87cc-e263359de4a2Post:a88f0a93-0c9c-4b09-b1eb-f7b81d8c2076">Re: B-List invites... is it too late?</a>:
[QUOTE]i know how you feel about the b list...there are some friends we want to invite but couldn't due to having to invite family first (both fiance and i have LARGE families)...so if that's the case, maybe it can be considered ok?
Posted by beltows4[/QUOTE]

No still not "ok".

NEXT

molls332233

no b-list it is! Thanks for the help girls :-)

FutureMrsTR

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_b-list-invites-late?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d084f0f3-b5be-4600-87cc-e263359de4a2Post:5f27db9f-dec4-4e45-a9de-393282bfb964">Re: B-List invites... is it too late?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: B-List invites... is it too late? : No still not "ok". NEXT
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

DED.  I totally pictured the Soup Nazi here.