My husband and I never had a wedding, he was deploying early and so we went to the JOP and now we are planning to renew our vows. We first wanted to do a big wedding and I asked my sister, 2 best friends and my 2 sister in laws to be in the wedding party. Now we've downsized to a small 30 person friends and immediate family luncheon reception. I would still like to have my special girls involved but feel as though 5 bm is too many for such a small event. How do I go about telling my sister in laws that I would like to have just my sister and 2 best friends? It's nothing personal at all just a matter of overall change of plans.