My FI and I are having a hard time with our guest list. We have a pretty large group of friends (& acquaintances) but also really large families - both of which have inquired whether or not they are invited to the wedding. We have used the line with our friends, "we have to keep the number of non-family members low because of our large families". The problem is, a couple in our group of friends is getting married a few weeks before us and are liberally inviting everyone on the planet before the invites have gone out. Recently we were at a gathering and some friends made the comment “xx is inviting us to their wedding, are we invited to yours?” Our venue and budget can only host 250 and we are feeling a lot of pressure from our friends… one of our friends asked if they could come to the wedding and come after dinner for the open bar and partying (or even just come to the partying part)… I KNOW THIS IS RUDE and against etiquette but how should we handle a large group of friends who won’t be able to be invited?! We want to celebrate with them, but honestly, it’s just not possible.