Preprinted Thank Yous

StephJean83

I went to a bridal show yesterday to get info on some vendors. They had a thing were we had to stop by most booths to get a stamp and at one booth they were promoting preprinted thank you cards. They provide a tablet for at the wedding that you put the seating arrangements into and they can check off that they arrived and can write in well wishes. As they check in and card is printed up for them that basically says, "Thank you for joining us. Your gift was very lovely. Love Bride and Groom". As I stood there all I could think was, how horrible this is when said guest doesn't bring a gift. I was so stunned that I couldn't even get the words out to tell them how horrible it is. Still kinda in shock over it but glad my FH and I both understand the importance of handwriting our own thank you notes.

Simply Fated

I just don't want to imagine all those brides and grooms that visited that booth and thought it was a fantastic idea.

GoodLuckBear14

I hope more than one bride was able to find the words to tell them that this is one of the most horribly rude ideas ever.

s-aries8990

so it's like addressing your TY, but filling in the info too? Holy crap...

StephJean83

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]I just don't want to imagine all those brides and grooms that visited that booth and thought it was a fantastic idea. Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

My FH and I are going through boxes of stuff he has and I found probably 2 or 3 of them that he received after weddings he has gone to. I can't believe people are that effing lazy!

StephJean83

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]so it's like addressing your TY, but filling in the info too? Holy crap... Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

They address the envelopes, write a short message and sign it. The bride and groom can select the fonts and color of ink, you know to personalize it.

StephJean83

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]I hope more than one bride was able to find the words to tell them that this is one of the most horribly rude ideas ever. Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

I hope so too. There were vendors who were telling me, that because I came organized with my calender, I would love it. My friends who were with me said they had to walk away they were so offended by it.

monkeysip

The solution is simple.  Just install an X-ray machine by the presents table.

The machine can take the data and read out "Thank you for joining us. Your coffeepot was very lovely. Love Bride and Groom".

Or if no gift, "Thank you for joining us. Your _?___ was very lovely. Love Bride and Groom".

misshart00

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]The solution is simple.nbsp; Just install an Xray machine by the presents table.The machine can take the data and read out "Thank you for joining us. Your coffeepot was very lovely. Love Bride and Groom".Or if no gift, "Thank you for joining us. Your _?___ was very lovely. Love Bride and Groom". Posted by monkeysip[/QUOTE]

'Your card with nothing in it was lovely.'

aurianna

I got a pre-printed thank you (four months after the wedding) a few weeks ago. No personalization. No hand writing anywhere.... and I was pretty annoyed.

... And somehow the industry has found a way to make it even LESS personal. Geez.

StephJean83

It is a running joke in one of my FH's group of friends that one guy always gives a gopher. No card and just a bow on it. Not thanking him for but a lovely gift, would seem so impersonal. He does put a lot of thought into buying the gopher, the least we can do is write him a proper thank you!

misshart00

Also? These 'services' have got to be a lot more expensive than just buying a pack of cards and writing them yourself.

Maggie0829

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_preprinted-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d172c15c-17a3-4d69-8096-ccdc63c7e653Post:ab5ea589-b71e-42ad-8223-2780ede3f622">Re: Preprinted Thank Yous</a>:
[QUOTE]I got a pre-printed thank you (four months after the wedding) a few weeks ago. No personalization. No hand writing anywhere.... and I was pretty annoyed. ... And somehow the industry has found a way to make it even LESS personal. Geez.
Posted by aurianna[/QUOTE]

Same here.  When I received it I kept flipping it over hoping that actual handwriting would appear.  But not so lucky.  I was kind of peeved because a handwritten note is the least a couple could do to thank their guests for taking an entire day to spend with them.

StephJean83

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]Also? These 'services' have got to be a lot more expensive than just buying a pack of cards and writing them yourself. Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

I didn't take any of their informational packets because I want to spend the time making my seating chart and really its not that much for a box of cards. They aren't stamping or mailing them either, they print them out and send them to us and we have to than stamp and mail them!

Jen4948

If I got one of those after giving a gift that I took time, money, and energy to obtain and give the couple, I'd reevaluate my relationship with the couple.

Ugh.

misshart00

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:Also? These 'services' have got to be a lot more expensive than just buying a pack of cards and writing them yourself. Posted by misshart00

I didn't take any of their informational packets because I want to spend the time making my seating chart and really its not that much for a box of cards. They aren't stamping or mailing them either, they print them out and send them to us and we have to than stamp and mail them! Posted by StephJean83[/QUOTE]

So I googled 'thank you note writing service' and I am amazed at what it came up with. Cards are about 2 to 4 dollars a piece. One website let you send in your own handwriting so it could go on the card. One site had an awful slogan: 'we think saying thank you is more important than who does it.'

I am so scared for future brides.

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_preprinted-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d172c15c-17a3-4d69-8096-ccdc63c7e653Post:42ff600b-89c7-42ed-a1d0-6873b62bac4a">Re:Preprinted Thank Yous</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous: So I googled 'thank you note writing service' and I am amazed at what it came up with. Cards are about 2 to 4 dollars a piece. One website let you send in your own handwriting so it could go on the card. One site had an awful slogan: 'we think saying thank you is more important than who does it.'<strong> I am so scared for future brides.
</strong>Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

be scared for us if any of them come on here.  We're the ones who will have to deal with the foot stomping and "your'e so ooooolllllddddddddd and out of touch."

Simply Fated

That slogan doesn't even make sense. Of course it matters who the thank you is from.

Simply Fated

That slogan doesn't even make sense. Of course it matters who the thank you is from.

harper0813

Did you go to the Pfister? If so, I was there too! I missed this stamp, though. I'm dying to know which vendor this was. Assuming they're a paper goods company, and they know all about thank you cards, they should know better!

walgrrl

I'd almost rather not even get a thank you note than to get something like that.

StephJean83

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]Did you go to the Pfister? If so, I was there too! I missed this stamp, though. I'm dying to know which vendor this was. Assuming they're a paper goods company, and they know all about thank you cards, they should know better! Posted by zoberg[/QUOTE]

We went to the one at Brookfield Sheraton. I found the small flyer they must have handed back with the card to be stamped. They also make a guest book, so you don't have to do that. Sorry but I want my guest book to something I will look at and a book is not it. This company was A Simple Thank You.

allychase

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_preprinted-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d172c15c-17a3-4d69-8096-ccdc63c7e653Post:fac7c6b4-4722-4183-80da-ca0cba09eacf">Re:Preprinted Thank Yous</a>:
[QUOTE]It is a running joke in one of my FH's group of friends that one guy always gives a gopher. No card and just a bow on it. Not thanking him for but a lovely gift, would seem so impersonal. He does put a lot of thought into buying the gopher, the least we can do is write him a proper thank you!
Posted by StephJean83[/QUOTE]

<div>A gopher?</div>

StephJean83

In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Preprinted Thank Yous:It is a running joke in one of my FH's group of friends that one guy always gives a gopher. No card and just a bow on it. Not thanking him for but a lovely gift, would seem so impersonal. He does put a lot of thought into buying the gopher, the least we can do is write him a proper thank you!Posted by StephJean83A gopher? Posted by allychase[/QUOTE]

It is a device to grab things high up.