Time frame worries...

OopsOreo04

The venue my FI and I have chosen holds both the ceremony and reception, but it is also a public state park so there is a very strict time frame to adhere to. The venue is a historical life saving station(similar to a light house) and is open until noon on saturdays to the public. So the vendors and my BP and I(lots of DIY decorations to save $) can begin to set up at 12pm and the ceremony begins at 430pm.
 Now my worry is not about setting up, time for hair/makeup/etc we already have a schedule for that(i know it seems silly but necissary) my huge worry is that my FI's family likes to show up early to EVERYTHING. When something is scheduled at 2pm they show up at 1230, so it is not even a few minute early, its extreme. I am a bit concerned that they will show up and everything will still be going on! Is there a polite way to inform them that the ceremony is at 430pm so they really should not be there any earlier than 4pm?

nda_roxybabe

Well, I think they'd figure with a wedding to not be too early. I guess you could have your FI just say, ceremonys at 4:30 if you all want to get there around 4.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]The venue my FI and I have chosen holds both the ceremony and reception, but it is also a public state park so there is a very strict time frame to adhere to. The venue is a historical life saving station(similar to a light house) and is open until noon on saturdays to the public. So the vendors and my BP and I(lots of DIY decorations to save $) can begin to set up at 12pm and the ceremony begins at 430pm.  Now my worry is not about setting up, time for hair/makeup/etc we already have a schedule for that(i know it seems silly but necissary) my huge worry is that my FI's family likes to show up early to EVERYTHING. When something is scheduled at 2pm they show up at 1230, so it is not even a few minute early, its extreme. I am a bit concerned that they will show up and everything will still be going on! Is there a polite way to inform them that the ceremony is at 430pm so they really should not be there any earlier than 4pm?
Posted by OopsOreo04[/QUOTE]

Eh, if they show up early, they'll see some tables being set.  Not the end of the world.  You'll be getting ready so you won't even know that they're early.  I think you're worrying about something that's not worth your energy.

sarabellam

If they show up early, put them to work.  Like Mrs.B said, don't sweat the small stuff.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Time frame worries... : Eh, if they show up early, they'll see some tables being set.  Not the end of the world.  You'll be getting ready so you won't even know that they're early.  I think you're worrying about something that's not worth your energy.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto this.  I can understand showing up early to regular family get together, but I don't see many people showing up hours early to a wedding.  At most you can have your FI's parents spread via word of mouth not to get there til around 4 at the earliest, but like Mrs.B said it's not something to at all stress or worry about. </div>

firsttimersluck

haha YES!! put them to work! i love that idea... it's their fault for showing up that early to a wedding anyway... They should know better on that occasion.. however if you're really THAT worrieda bout it..
it's your FI's family.
Have him talk to them to explain that situation and it shouldn't be a problem