Parent gifts Question..

holycrapawedding

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting- but I've been reading a lot!

So my fiance's parents are divorced and they both have new significant others. I'm planning on making a little gift for all of our parents including t-shirts that say "Mother of the Bride", "Mother of the Groom", "Father of the Bride", "Father of the Groom", etc. along with a few other trinkets. My questions is, am I supposed to give something to my FMIL's boyfriend, and my FFIL's girlfriend? We're living with my FMIL and her boyfriend and they're letting us have our reception on their land, but the problem is- 1) FMIL's boyfriend and I do NOT get along at all, nor do he and my fiance, and 2) I'm not even sure if they'll still be together by then (she's not even sure if they'll be together by then). Also, I've never met FFIL's girlfriend, and my fiance and her don't really get along very well. So, I guess what I want to know is, do I give them something so they'll feel like they're included or do I just give something to his parents?

Kate61487

I think you're probably okay either way here.  It might be nice to include something that's for the parents as couples; typical gifts would be like an album of wedding pics, restaurant gift cards - those, I think, could be addressed to MIL and bf, FIL and gf.  But the idea of the gifts is really to thank your parents for raising you, supporting you on that day, etc. and that's about his parents, not their bf/gf

JaxInBlue

When you say you and FI are getting married on "their" land do you mean land that your FMIL and her BF own together, that your MIL owns and BF lives on, on land that he owns, or something else?  If the BF is an owner of the property (or the owner) and she's not sure they'll be together when you get married, I hope you have a back up reception option.

As far as gifting goes, what is your FI's opinion?  I think since these are his parents and their SOs, I'd let his preferences guide you.  In my opinion, I think that if FMIL is with the boyfriend, it would be nice to include him, especially if they consider it "their" land.  If you include the BF, it would probably be a nice (and peace-saving) gesture to include FFIL's GF.  You could have t-shirts made for them that say "HOLYCRAPAWEDDINNG & FI'S NAME WEDDING" with your date. You could do small, less personal trinkets for them based on likes or hobbies or something more generic (a bottle of wine each, an amazon GC, etc).

On the other hand, if it's only her land, and he is also a guest on her property, I might lean more toward treating BF and GF like other spouses of wedding party members, that is not doing something for them.  Regardless of what I would do though, I'd let your FI make the final decision on this one.

ETA: grammar and punctuation

 

holycrapawedding

Thanks Ladies,

Jaclyne, they own the land together, and we already have a back-up option just in case she ends up being the one to leave.

I'll have to talk to my FI about it, but I think he'll probably say he doesn't want to give them anything.. I'll probably make them a t-shirt, though.