Tattoos

VeggieLove1022

So I'm contemplating a new tattoo and when I asked H's opinion last night he said it wasn't his style or in a spot that he'd prefer. It didn't hurt my feelings or anything, but it did get me wondering if most other couples had gotten tattoos knowing that their SO didn't care for it. Or if your H mentioned he didn't like the place would you move it? 

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It depends, I guess, on why he didn't like the spot I was getting it. Probably wouldn't change my mind, but I'd hear him out.

I'm getting another one next month and my H was against it for awhile. He doesn't want me to get any more because he's afraid I'll turn into some tattoo addict and never stop getting them. But he's knows its happening regardless so he's accepted it, and even offered to go with me.

My feelings might be a little hurt if he didn't like it, but ultimately my tattoos are personal to me so it doesn't matter what others think.  They will never mean to someone else what they mean to me.

VeggieLove1022

I plan on getting it on my upper leg. Here's a pic that shows the spot better-

And he thinks it could easily turn masculine looking. I think it's a really pretty spot and one of the only places I can get it because of its size. 

And it didn't hurt my feelings about him not caring for it because his reason wasn't about the actual tattoo itself. Apparently his brother was into this sort of thing when he was younger and he just said it would always make him think of his brother. 

sarabear23

I don't think that area is masculine looking. My friend has a very large tattoo in that spot, and while it's NMS, it looks nice on her. 

Maybe your H will come around, but if not, it's your body. If you love the idea, go for it.

QueerFemme

I love my tattoos. I would hear him out. But id probably do it anyway.

QueerFemme

Ps. I just saw the pic. Id totally rock that tattoo in that spot. That's beautiful and not even a little bit masculine.

VeggieLove1022

Well it's not that tattoo- it's just the location that I want a tattoo at. Hopefully once he sees me with the tattoo a couple of times he'll start to associate the image with me and not his brother. 

RockstarWifey0912

My FI is the same way on the spot- I want to get my next one done in the same area as you.  He thinks it'll be ugly and would prefer I move it to my back.  I already have a back mural planned out, so that may not happen, but at least we're talking it over.

Ultimately, it's YOUR body, and you can put it wherever you want.  But maybe you guys can compromise on a spot?  

VeggieLove1022

Completely makes sense, Stage. 

coopsbaby

I have a large butterfly tattoo in that spot and it's the one I get most favorable reations on. Like you said, it's a good place to get a larger tattoo, plus it's easy to cover up which is always a plus for me.

adamar15

I'm late to this, but I agree with Sesh.  I'd hear him out, but ultimately it'd be my decision.  What's the tattoo?

goobersinlove

I am a non-tattoo person, so I guess my 2 cents comes with a grain of salt... but I personally would never get a tattoo that FI didn't like (if I were to ever get a tattoo).

VeggieLove1022

Adamar first of all I think I might have hit report thinking it was reply so knot gods please ignore! Second, here's the link to something similar. I want it to be simpler, but you get the idea. My mom and I use to watch the movie all the time and we always try to watch it once a year around the holidays. It's just something that reminds me of her. http://farm7.staticflickr.com/6225/6286279411_31a2ff99e0_z.jpg I hope that link works. My phone doesn't seem to like it for some reason.

Kate61487

I got my first tattoo before H and I started dating.  The second I got while we were dating but it didn't even occur to me to ask his opinion (we'd only been together 3 months).  H isn't really a tattoo guy; he'd never get one, but he accepts mine.  I think if I was planning another I'd take his opinion into consideration.  Whether I let it change my mind or not would depend on his reaction, like stage said.  If it was something that he found really unattractive (design or location) I'd probably re-think, whereas if he was just like "I don't get it, I think it's silly/stupid" I'd do it anyway.

I have a few personal tattooing rules that I go by and have recommended to some of our younger cousins when they've been talking about getting tattoos (should think about the item/meaning for at least a year to increase the likelihood you won't change your mind; location should be easily covered in professional attire)  one of them is that it should be small enough to be covered by one hand.  It's JMO, but I think larger than that can start to look trashy/masculine.  I guess it's just NMS

adamar15

That's fun, Veggie!  

Note to self, don't be in a bathing suit around Kate.  

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I don't have tats, but I would consider getting them. My husband would not consider getting them. I don't know that he would tell me, "oh, I don't like that" or "you should put it somewhere else" though. His opinion is that body art isn't for him, but whatever anyone else, including me, wants to do is fine. I'd be surprised if he commented on my intentions at all, really.

But anyway, his "tattoos aren't my style" opinion wouldn't keep me from getting one, so him not really loving my selection wouldn't keep me from it, either.

scstar17

I get mine without consulting him - they are mine!  I mean sometimes I talk to him about designs I want but I don't have to ask his approval.  Your fiancee shouldn't care if it makes you happy.  I have seven and he has zero.