I heard years ago that starting a conga

chattychiqa

line at a wedding is rude. Has anyone heard this or know why? I HATE the conga line-not sure why, LOL What else is a wedding guest faux pas?

Simply Fated

I'm not a fan of the conga line, but I didn't know it was rude to start one. Why is that?

JJJ625

Rude? Awkward, maybe but rude? So weird that someone would consider it rude. They only real faux pas that would bother me would be objecting when the officiant asks, hitting on the bride or groom, and getting wasted when it's not that kind of party.

bluandsilverbride

I love to hop in on one, but would you feel brave enough to start one??? lol oh well thats not the question. The question is, is it rude?
No I certainly dont think its rude. Maybe if you were at a very strict black tie only wedding with a bride and groom that do not want anything disrepectfull, then yeah its rude.
But if your at your everyday light and fun wedding, then I see nothing wrong with it!

SparrowSong

I thought these only happened in movies from the 70s. I have never seen one in real life. 

I guess they are rude in that they ruin the perfect playlist the couple had in mind, with the underlined "no chicken dance, no macarena, no hokey pokey" that they gave the dj. Conga line doesn't really say classy, upscale event that so many brides are trying to create. But if some guest starts one, I bet the dj is going to feel s/he needs to put the music on and go with it. 

chattychiqa

It was on tv, something like GMA that had a guest talking about wedding etiquette. She didn't say why, just that it's SO RUDE (she emphasized it). I hate hate hate it but know I can't stop it, so I'll just go with it if it happens. I can't understand why it's considered rude in some circles.

chattychiqa

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[QUOTE]I thought these only happened in movies from the 70s. I have never seen one in real life.  I guess they are rude in that they ruin the perfect playlist the couple had in mind, with the underlined "no chicken dance, no macarena, no hokey pokey" that they gave the dj. Conga line doesn't really say classy, upscale event that so many brides are trying to create. But if some guest starts one, I bet the dj is going to feel s/he needs to put the music on and go with it. 
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My parents start one at EVERY WEDDING...... And my dad dedicates a song to my mom at weddings too. I hate that. It's not prom, it's a wedding! I've already told the DJ no dedications, but I can't imagine anyone but dad is bold enough to do that.

Loopyseven

I have been to weddings with conga lines.  I don't know who started them.  I don't know why starting one would be considered rude.

RamonaFlowers

There was a conga line at my wedding. The DJ had asked me during our planning session if we wanted him to start one and we said no (No real reason, we just didn't see the need), and he didn't.

But something came over somebody when "Copacabana" (Which was on the playlist) started playing and BOOM, conga line! Every single person capable of walking wound up joining in. I didn't mind, people had fun-that's all that really matters at the reception, anyway.

dogsandfrogs

I've never heard of it being rude, and I definitely haven't seen one started.  I don't even know how they start, I just know one minute everyone is hanging out dancing, and then suddenly there's a line going around the room.  It's like it materializes out of thin air.

We're telling the DJ not to start one, but if one spontaneously appears I'm not going to be upset about it.

RaptorSLH

I was at a the wedding of friends when the bride and groom themselves started one.  It was a casual, mostly family reception, so maybe that helps, but everyone had a blast.  We had pulled in nearly the all the guests by the end of it.  And you know what? It was such a wonderful way to cut the ice and overcome our self consciousness that most of us continued to dance afterwards.  It's the only wedding I've been to where everyone danced, not just the young and inebriated.  It's still the most fun I've ever had at a wedding reception.

Little Miss Snooty TV etiquette person can take her "SO RUDE!" and cram it right in her ear. Then again, I think chatty's dad sounds like a sweety (pending his choice of song.)