Ok I have a question. My older brother got engaged in November of last year and have a wedding date of the beginning of next year. Both me and my brother still live at home so we can save money as long as we are in collage. I am the younger sister (21 years old) and I have been dating my BF for 3 and 1/2 years. Well last month my BF told my brother he was planning on asking for my hand some time this year (Yay for me) and ever since then my brother hasn't talked to me or if if he does talk to me its to say something rude. He has told my mother that since he and I live in the same house I shouldn't get engaged before he gets married. I plan on having a two year engagement and he tells my mother that since I want a 2 year engagement I should instead have a 1year and 6 month engagement so that I don't "steal his thunder". Last night he told me that people that have 2 year engagements are selfish and rude and just want attention. My boyfriend has told me that he already has made plans of some kind of how he wants to ask me which he states is very intricate. He wants to know if I want him to change his plans and not ask till after my brothers wedding. Now I don't know what to do. My brother wont talk to me so we cant talk out our differences. I don't want my brother to be mad but at the same time I don't want to start my new life off with my brother telling me what to do. I guess my real questions are: have me and my boyfriend done anything wrong or is my brother being a diva and over reacting, Is a two year engagement too long, And last does any one have a suggestion on how to handle this situation?