Invite Employees?

heidistuber

I am the boss in a small office, with 2 current full-time employees and 1 former employee I keep in touch with. I'm having a small wedding (less than 50 people) and I'm torn on whether to invite them. On the one hand, we try to keep our office friendly and I have been talking to them about the wedding plans. On the other hand, we don't normally spend time outside of work and I don't want them to feel obligated to come and buy a gift, since I'm their boss.

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]I am the boss in a small office, with 2 current full-time employees and 1 former employee I keep in touch with. I'm having a small wedding (less than 50 people) and I'm torn on whether to invite them. On the one hand, we try to keep our office friendly and <strong>I have been talking to them about the wedding plans</strong>. On the other hand, we don't normally spend time outside of work and I don't want them to feel obligated to come and buy a gift, since I'm their boss.
Posted by heidistuber[/QUOTE]

Then I would invite them as you have discussed wedding plans with them (I'm assuming it was more than just the date or location).

kcscejal

I agree that if you have discussed wedding plans then they should be invited to the wedding.  If you weren't sure if you wanted to invite them then you shouldn't have been discussing it with them.

achiduck

If you don't socialize with them outside of work or work related events then I would say no, you don't have to invite them.
 
That being said if you've been talking to them about the wedding in a lot of detail then I think you should invite them. I think it all depends on how much you've said.

heidistuber

As a follow up, I haven't been talking to them about the details, indicating they'd be invited. More like, showing them a picture of the dress and talking about how we hope it will be sunny by then.  We all talk a bit about what's going on in our lives and it is within the normal limits of those sorts of chats.

Thank you all for your thoughts! It's really helpful.

thesequel

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[QUOTE]As a follow up, I haven't been talking to them about the details, indicating they'd be invited. <strong>More like, showing them a picture of the dress and talking about how we hope it will be sunny by then. </strong> We all talk a bit about what's going on in our lives and it is within the normal limits of those sorts of chats. Thank you all for your thoughts! It's really helpful.
Posted by heidistuber[/QUOTE]

<div>This is discussing wedding planning with your employees.  </div>

specialk84

As an employee, I would not want to be invited to your wedding, even if you talked about it all the time.  I wouldn't want to feel pressured to buy you a present, or really, to know that much about your personal life.

I think an employee might make an assumption that their attendance is required, especially in such a small office.  I wouldn't invite them, but I would stop talking about it.