Do I have to throw her a stag and doe?

TheCranberry

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_throw-her-stag-doe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d635f93f-da7c-4df2-94a4-3c555245daf9Post:e23c7687-2d2a-4f10-ae2f-8cd064da3684">Re: Do I have to throw her a stag and doe?</a>:
[QUOTE]You could always do what a co-worker's son is doing - they couldn't be bothered to organize a Stag and Doe and are doing a 50/50 draw instead. And I thought Stag and Does were tacky!
Posted by travellerlisa[/QUOTE]

What is a 50/50 draw?

travellerlisa

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_throw-her-stag-doe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d635f93f-da7c-4df2-94a4-3c555245daf9Post:11cd8407-6328-43ea-b638-2b936a339a60">Re: Do I have to throw her a stag and doe?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do I have to throw her a stag and doe? : Every one I've ever heard of has been "buy tickets at x amount of money, then we'll draw a ticket out of a hat and the winner gets half of all the money raised and whatever the money being raised for gets the other half."
Posted by melissamc2[/QUOTE]

This - they were charging $20 per ticket so if they sold 100 tickets the prize would be $1000 and the bride and groom would get $1000

mica178

I wouldn't ignore the bride's request.  I would explain that you can't throw the stag and doe for the (VERY legitimate) reasons you listed in your OP.  If she's a good friend, she'll understand that you have your own wedding to plan, not to mention final exams.  And if you gently hint that stag and doe parties aren't in the best of taste, so much the better.