gift recieved, but no RSVP

hcbrowne

Quick question. I recieved a card and a monetary gift (a personal check) from someone on my guest list, but no reply card. Is this supposed to mean, sorry we cant attend? I had another guest do this also, but with their reply card saying they could not attend. Silly question probably, but is this some sort of code?

Also, when do I send a thank you card for those who have sent personal checks? My feeling is right away, because I would think the guest would want to make sure it was recieved through the mail, but I didn't know if it was a little strange to send out thank you cards before the wedding?

Thanks!

emilyinchile

It's not necessarily a "no" RSVP, they may just prefer to send the gift now rather than bring it to the wedding. Wait until your RSVP date passes, then follow-up if you still haven't heard from them.

Send the thank you for all gifts you receive before the wedding when you receive them. In the case of physical gifts, don't use them before the wedding, but in the case of checks do cash them (just don't necessarily use that money) so that people don't have to worry about when you're going to cash them.

waltzingmatilda13

I would probably call them to confirm. You really don't want to guess and guess wrong.  Edit: wait until after the RSVP date, like emily said.

You should send thank you notes before the wedding for gifts as you receive them so the sender knows you got it. Go ahead and cash the checks as well, just don't spend any money until after the wedding.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I've gotten gifts before the wedding from both people who are and are not coming. So yeah, who knows.

mica178

Cash the check sooner rather than later  so the sender's balance evens out.  The thank you note should be sent out before or on the same day that you cash the check.  You should call the persno to find out if they're coming or not.

ootmother2

I always reply even though I can't attend and put a cash gift in the envelope.

TTiger03

I'm having a hard time remembering, but aren't you getting married on Oct 9?   Go ahead and call them to verify.  You can tell them that you are getting final numbers, but don't tell them "We got your check.  Does this mean you aren't coming?"
I'm guessing you need final head count in the next week or so, so I would go ahead and start calling all the people you haven't heard from  yet. 

Above are all right about cashing the check.