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Shower Gift Question

I am having difficulty making a decision and I could use your help ladies…Here’s the story:

I am going to a bridal shower this weekend for my FSIL. My mom was invited too and so we are going to combine resources and buy her a bigger gift. We both kind of procrastinated and now we're in a bit of a bind.

 

Our original plan was to get her four place settings from the dish set that she wanted. The problem is that it is only available online. With the expedited shipping costs, it would put us a bit over what we wanted to spend. Plus I'm wondering if it would look weird carrying in four identical boxes, and watch her open four of the same thing in a row. So here are our current options:

 

1. Get her the dishes, and just pay the expedited shipping.

 

2. We also considered just going to the store and getting her the vacuum cleaner she wanted, which would cost the same as the dishes plus the expedited shipping. And it's only one box. Plus I feel like she might get more use out of this gift. Again though, it's a little more than what we are comfortable spending.

 

3. Get the dishes and have them sent to her apartment with standard shipping. Then, print a picture of the dishes and put it in a card. Is this tacky? Have you ever seen anyone do this?

 

What would you do?

 

Thanks in advance!

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Re: Shower Gift Question

  • I would get her the dishes and have them sent to her.  You can bring a bottle of champagne or something like that to the shower and let her know you had something sent to her home so she didn't have to worry about transporting it.


  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    I said ship it to her house. Don't feel like you need to print off a picture of them though -- she picked them out and she knows what they look like.

    I agree with the PP who suggested bringing a nice card and a bottle of wine.
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  • plato79plato79 member
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    Agree w/PP. I had several people give me place settings that were shipped to my home and they wrapped something small up and included a note about the settings. FSIL will buy her own vaccuum if she doesn't get it for her wedding...I think she's less likely to buy the place settings for her china pattern. 
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  • I like PP idea...but make sure they come off the registry so she doesn't end up with too many haha. I have done the photo in the box before for christmas or birthday if it was ordered online and didn't come in time!
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  • Some of my shower guests sent my kitchenaid mixer to my house.  It was an amazing card that I opened up and had that picture.  Just be sure to give her a card that says what it is.   she should be extremely grateful.
  • Just have them shipped. Get a card and something small (wine, whatever) with a note about the place settings being sent.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-gift-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d89d0789-431e-4c12-9f8b-8848983ff5edPost:2be7e900-e6ae-4b71-b125-fd2e819c5882">Re: Shower Gift Question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I said ship it to her house. <strong>Don't feel like you need to print off a picture of them though -- she picked them out and she knows what they look like.</strong> I agree with the PP who suggested bringing a nice card and a bottle of wine.
    Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

    That's true. Though I was thinking more along the lines of putting the picture in so that at the shower, she already knows what we got her.

    I like the champagne idea, but she doesn't drink. Along those lines though maybe I can get her a cute "bride" t-shirt, or flip flops for the wedding day or something. She doesn't have any bridesmaids (who in my experience usually get that stuff, if anyone does at least) so maybe that would work?
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    [QUOTE]I would get her the dishes and have them sent to her.  You can bring a bottle of champagne or something like that to the shower and let her know you had something sent to her home so she didn't have to worry about transporting it.
    Posted by TheCranberry[/QUOTE]

    <div>Love this! I also feel like getting her the dishes is nicer than a vac. Obviously, she'd get use out of both, but dishes are prettier! What a thoughtful gift! </div>

  • Honestly, you're fine just sending the gift and getting her a card and putting a picture of the gift inside it; I don't think you need to get something small on top of what you're already getting her.  I got a bunch of cards, and gift cards, at my showers.
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    [QUOTE]I would get her the dishes and have them sent to her.  You can bring a bottle of champagne or something like that to the shower and let her know you had something sent to her home so she didn't have to worry about transporting it.
    Posted by TheCranberry[/QUOTE]

    This is a wonderful idea! Bring something small to the shower and let her know to expect something in the mail shortly! :)
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  • sending the gift to her house is totally acceptable. i'm sure she will be glad to have one less box to carry home afterwards as well!! i don't think that you need to get her anything else besides a card for the shower since it's not as though you didn't get her a present at all. however, a bottle of wine is almost never unwanted!
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  • I voted vacuum because I would like a vacuum way more but I am not her so I would say your 3rd option is perfect Laughing

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