While my FMIL was over at the house helping me with escort cards, she got all worked up about some drama going on w/ FSIL (age 20) that got me steamed....
FILs wanted to pay for FI's hotel room the night before the wedding. FSIL is BM and will be staying with me and the rest of BP at my parents' house that night. FI said they should get two rooms for two nights-- one for them and one that FI can use Fri night and FSIL can use Sat night. FSIL pitched a fit and said that they needed to get three rooms-- one for them for two nights, one for FI for one night, and one for her boyfriend for two nights, since he would **obviously** be coming to the RD, and then she would stay in the room with him on Sat.
FMIL did not want to pay for them to have a room together but FSIL went bananas, yelling at FMIL that she is an adult and that they need to realize that she and her BF should be able to stay in the same room together and it's not fair and blah blah blah... Here are my thoughts...
1. She doesn't need a date to the rehearsal dinner (?). Obviously married couples get a "date" for RD b/c their spouses are traveling with them for the whole shin-dig. But do we need to allow her to bring her BF?
2. Related to #1, there is no reason for him to come up Friday. He'd be completely alone from 4:30pm Friday (if we do not allow him to come to the rehearsal or RD) through the entire next day until 6pm, when the reception starts and she'll be able to see him/sit with him. If you happen to remember/look up a previous post I made, we have had issues w/ FSIL and her inability to put anyone else before herself, especially where her BF is concerned, so this seems especially troublesome.
3. There is NO REASON why FILs should pay for his hotel room, IMO.
4. There is NO REASON why they should HAVE to stay in the same hotel room if FILs are not comfortable with it. FI and I live together and sleep in the same bed nightly, but when we visit FILs or my parents, we have separate rooms and will be that way until after the wedding. We respect our parents' wishes.
So there is the giant, steaming pile of crap that has been thrust in my lap and my views on the matter. FMIL wants FI and I to sit down with FSIL and deal with it ourselves, since its our wedding. I wanted to get your views on this craziness. Am I nuts? Am I right? Are there alternate solutions? Mayhaps you can sift through the BS.
PS... Sorry this turned into a novella... It's a GIANT pile of BS! 