Bachelorette party uninvited guests

pzavecz

I'm having my B-party in Vegas this weekend.  I'm so excited!  I know that anyone invited to a pre-wedding party must be invited to the wedding.  No problems there...everyone invited is invited to the wedding.  But what about guests that an invited guest decides to "invite" to join in on the festivities?  The reason I ask is because I noticed on my friend's (who is invited and is coming) FB and noticed that she knows some people that are going to be there the same weekend and it sounded like she was coordinating with them about things.  Also, I know she has a friend that lives in the area.  Everytime I have gone to Vegas with this friend, her friend has come along with us to the clubs and hung out.  I don't know for sure if she is planning to invite these people to come along to meet up with us and hang out.  I do not really know these people nor do I really want them at my bachelorette party and I will not be inviting them to the wedding.  I know I can't control who shows up at the clubs but if it's my bachelorette party, don't I get a say in who I want to be hanging out with and partaking in the festivities with me?  I just think it's weird to be celebrating with people when they aren't even invited.   

What is the etiquette on this?  Do I just let it go and let these people come along but it's ok to not invite them to the wedding?  I gave my B-party guest list to my MOH and it was clear who was invited...do I let her handle it?  I want to do the easiest thing that won't cause hard feelings but is also in line with etiquette.  Thanks for the advice!   

J&K10910

Well, you'd let your host handle it, but honestly?  If I had a b-party in Vegas and one of my guests had a friend in the area, I wouldn't have a problem with them meeting up for a bit.  I'd imagine they don't see each other often.

You certainly do not have to invite the tag-alongs to the wedding.  Just let it go. 

crash2729

If guests are inviting extra people then you don't have to invite them to the wedding. They weren't on your invite list. I wouldn't think these people would have any expectation to be invited to the wedding.

pzavecz

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[QUOTE]Well, you'd let your host handle it, but honestly?  If I had a b-party in Vegas and one of my guests had a friend in the area, I wouldn't have a problem with them meeting up for a bit.  I'd imagine they don't see each other often. You certainly do not have to invite the tag-alongs to the wedding.  Just let it go. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, I wouldn't mind that they met up and hung out.  I can't control what she decides to do when we're just kind of lounging around and relaxing during the weekend.  But I meant more along the lines for like the planned events: going to planned dinners, shows, etc.  But yeah, either way - I guess I don't need to invite them.  Thanks! </div>

pzavecz

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[QUOTE]If guests are inviting extra people then you don't have to invite them to the wedding. They weren't on your invite list. I wouldn't think these people would have any expectation to be invited to the wedding.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yeah, that's what I was thinking too.  I guess as long as I'm in the clear, then whatever, I'll just let things happen if they happen.  Thank you!

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tmwishful

Look at it this way - they might show up at the club and buy you drinks.

Loopyseven

I agree with J&K - I doubt if they are just meeting up with you all somewhere they have any expectation of being invited to the wedding.  I doubt they'd crash a dinner or show when you'll likely have reservations for a certain number of people and buy tickets ahead of time.  And it sounds like you've met them and are at least passably comfortable with them as they meet up with you when you're in the area with that friend - so I'd probably roll with it if they meet you out at a club or something.  

Meegles4

Agree with PPs. I think even if they do tag along to the "planned events", you're fine. They likely don't expect to be invited if they're not your friends, and as Loopy said, if you're at least comfortable with them, I don't think it's terrible if they were to come to the special b-party activities. I wouldn't extend a specific invite to them, but if your friend does and they do show up, I think it's OK. Just stay out of it and let your friend and the "host" deal with it if they choose to.