Tell Where We Are Registered?

shannonalise

There are several people on our guest list that are unable to make it to our wedding. They have asked us where we are registered and I have no idea how to respond. I feel very uncomfortable talking about our registry with people. I'd rather people found out through word of mouth if they really want to buy us a gift. Not that we won't love any gifts that we may receive, but I still feel strange with the gift thing. 

I could just ignore the questions (emailed to me) but they don't know anyone else at the wedding they could ask. Is there a tactful, but non gift-grabby way to respond? We are grateful for even the gesture that they would want to get us a gift, but we want people to understand that it's not necessary.

Thanks for the advice!

shannonalise

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-registered?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:da9bfcc7-c734-4a79-a1be-1e7283284ed9Post:5452edc1-db7d-4a8e-b131-5876848b5591">Re: Tell Where We Are Registered?</a>:
[QUOTE]There is NOTHING wrong with telling people who ask where you are registered.  That's how it is supposed to be done.  The problem with putting registry information in your invitations isn't that it's coming from you, it's that you are presuming that people want to get you a gift and that they need suggestions for what to get.  It would be just as improper for your bridal party to call up your guests unsolicited and tell them where you are registered.  Once somebody asks, that person has indicated that he wants to know where you are registered, and it's perfectly fine to tell him.
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

Makes sense. Thank you.

kee80

If you have a wedding website, you could just send them the link.

noodle_oo

I would respond with this option: " We are so grateful you want to get us a gift, but you don't have to do that."

But then I would give them the info anyway.  If they are asking, then they probably want to get you a gift.  Don't make it harder for them by not telling them!

But don't worry, I know how you feel!  I feel funny about it too! 

NuggetBrain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-registered?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:da9bfcc7-c734-4a79-a1be-1e7283284ed9Post:df8f7e36-c69a-4fa2-b813-c964597feead">Re: Tell Where We Are Registered?</a>:
[QUOTE]I would respond with this option: " We are so grateful you want to get us a gift, but you don't have to do that." But then I would give them the info anyway.  If they are asking, then they probably want to get you a gift.  Don't make it harder for them by not telling them! But don't worry, I know how you feel!  I feel funny about it too! 
Posted by noodle_oo[/QUOTE]

The only reason I say not to do that, is because it can make the person feel like you don't want them to get you a gift, which can make them feel a bit awkward.  I know when I asked someone that question and got that response, I didn't know if they were just being polite or if they really didn't want me to get them a gift. 

shannonalise

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-registered?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:da9bfcc7-c734-4a79-a1be-1e7283284ed9Post:32d74eb1-f2c0-4afd-b17f-a039bd191615">Re: Tell Where We Are Registered?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell Where We Are Registered? : The only reason I say not to do that, is because it can make the person feel like you don't want them to get you a gift, which can make them feel a bit awkward.  I know when I asked someone that question and got that response, I didn't know if they were just being polite or if they really didn't want me to get them a gift. 
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

I get that. I think I'll just say "Thanks so much for the gesture. You don't have to do that, but if you would like to, we are registered at..."