Plus one or name?

kayla7231

Hi,

Not sure how to address these invites. My FI cousin lives at home with her parents, and she is 22 so I know to give her a sep invite, but should I put the name of her boyfriend on the invite too? They have been together for 6 or 7 months now, but they live in NY so it's not like we know him, I believe FI has met him once and didn't really care one way or the other for him, and couldn't remember his name if he tried... but I am friends with her on facebook and constantly see her mentioning him. SO would it be polite to just go ahead and include his name on the invite (or would I be a facebook stalker!?!?) or could I just say "and guest" and pretend I don't see her mentioning him on facebook ALL the time (we don't actually talk on there - just the status updates she always posts). Or should I just not even worry about it and just invite her and no boyfriend? I suppose we have the room for him, but I am really not letting a few of my single friends bring guests unless they are in a serious relationship.

Thanks for the input!

quotequeen

If you know or can find out the SO's name, you should always put the name instead of "and guest."

danieliza1127

You should definitely use his name if it's that easy for you to find it.  Some people get really offended if you use "and Guest" when they know that you know their guest's name.

Also, if you know someone is in a relationship (regardless of your definition of serious), you need to invite their significant other.

PharmacyBride

I think this version of facebook stalking is a really nice touch.  You can alway put "and guest" but the fact you put his actual name would mean so much to her.  Go the extra mile and be a "creep" for 5 minutes

Happy Stalking : )

wadingmoose

Name is much better and personal.  And an invitation to a wedding is nothing if it isn't personal.

kmjarvey

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_plus-one-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:dac5547e-8d8e-4134-8784-654d8e892eeaPost:22ab3010-3db8-444b-8da5-888e2cb83631">Re: Plus one or name?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think this version of facebook stalking is a really nice touch.  You can alway put "and guest" but the fact you put his actual name would mean so much to her.  Go the extra mile and be a "creep" for 5 minutes Happy Stalking : )
Posted by PharmacyBride[/QUOTE]

This is what I ended up doing! When my FI and I were dating, I liked it when we'd get invited to his friends' weddings and I was included on the invite. It helped make me feel even more welcome.

FutureMrsJorgy2012

Put his name!! It is much more personal especially if you know they're together and can get his name from facebook.

tenofcups4me

Invite him by name.

kayla7231

Okay! Going with the facebook stalking invite. I was just worried she'd get the invite and be a little freaked out - I've never even met the guy but it'd be hard to miss as often as she mentions him on FB.

Thanks everyone, dilemma solved!

brookelynpaisley

Ugh