When to tell extended family?

carrieandpearl

FI and I had a dinner tonight with our parents and siblings and told them our plans of going to a Sandles resort to get married and having a reception locally as soon as we get back.

FI now wants to email aunts and uncles to tell them our plans. I don't see the point. The more people we tell the more opinions and comments we open ourselves up to.

IMO: If their help isn't needed in planning they don't need to know the details. Most people just want to know when and where to show up to a wedding event and don't care much about the details. In the off chance they object to our idea (some might not like being there for the ceremony) I'd rather not tell people now.

Basic Question: When do you tell extended family, Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins plans for the wedding? 

barrelbabe004

Well I'm pretty close to my aunts and uncles so they knew the date pretty much right after we booked the venue.  Other than that though they didn't know/ask about anything else wedding related (except for the aunt that paid for my dress.)
I don't think it would hurt to let them know your plans and date especially since you're going to a resort.
That is if you're planning on inviting them.  If not, then I probably wouldn't bring it up.

thesuninherhead

They found out officially from us when they got an invite. 

I'm sure your parents will let them know of the plans informally. There's no need to bulk email them and tell them, IMO.

laurynfaerie

my mom told her parents the next time she spoke to them after i told her, and then made me call my dad's parents, although that could be because of where we chose to do the wedding she wanted everyone to know we were coming home

carrieandpearl

We are going to the Sandles Resort by ourselves. And as of now there is not a date, only an idea of March/April.

twilight.rose

I think it depends on how close you are to your extended family.

I'm very close to one of my aunts, so she found out when we told our other close family we were engaged. The remainder of the extended family officially found out when they got wedding invitations, though I'm sure some of them had heard through the grapevine before then.

megk8oz

Aside from his one cousin, that we hired to do our flowers, I have no idea what or when DH's extended found out anything, if they found out anything before receiving an invite.

My mom was with us when we booked our venue. We pretty much called/told the rest of the parents and siblings within a couple hours of doing that. My mom told the rest of my family as she got around to it (In my family all of the women are really close, so yeah, nothing stays secret very long, lol).

mica178

Especially since they're not invited to the actual wedding, I wouldn't do a formal announcement right now.  Word of mouth and the reception invitation are announcement enough.

SarahPLiz

Making such an announcement, when you won't be inviting them anyway, will only rub it in their faces that they aren't invited. Announcing an engagement is one thing, but only invited guests need to know the date and time it is happening. THose only invited to a reception at home should be int he know when they get that invitation.