Inviting people with guests

lindsaybelle4

Hi all,

My fiancee and I are trying to keep our guest list small as I don't want more than 100 people at my wedding and we're on a small budget.  Is it ok to invite people without guests or do you need to invite everyone with a guest?

crfische

Long term relationships, engaged couples, and spouses all must be invited with a guest.

SarahPLiz

If that person is married or in a long term relationship ( I say 6 months or more) then their SO should be invited as well, by name. It is your choice whether or not to invite other single guests with a plus one.

crfische

See, and I consider a long term relationship 1 year plus, and I don't think living together is a good line either.

Some people move in with each other after a month of knowing them and they shouldn't get an invite over someone who isn't living together and been together for a year.

lindsaybelle4

Right, sorrry I did not clarify, if people are married, engaged or in long term relationships I would invite them but, do I have to invite my single guests with a guest?

saisongbird

Read the above posts.  They were very clear.

crfische

No you don't. I figured that was inferred by the posts above.

nicolesly730

I'm doing if they are living together/married or if they are not going to know anyone.  I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one.  Most of my friends are single and don't care about getting plus one.

banana468

You don't have to invite your single friends with a guest but it's a good thing to budget that they'll be in LTR by the time you get married.  Since you have a year and a half until then, it's best to be on the safe side as far as a head count would be concerned.

I think the older you get, the shorter a relationship needs to be in order for it to be considered "long term".  A few years ago I would have said that it had to be a year but I now know many people who are living together and engaged by that point.   You really need to look at the relationship itself to see if it's "serious' or just a fling.

crfische

I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one.

Are you kidding me? She isn't getting one out of spite even though she's in a committed relationship?

crfische

Banana, that's a good point about the relationship length, too.

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:15ea418b-6783-4b31-9c3a-79afdd4794f1">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm doing if they are living together/married or if they are not going to know anyone.  <strong>I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one. </strong> Most of my friends are single and don't care about getting plus one.
Posted by nicolesly730[/QUOTE]

This is crap.

Your wedding should not be used to get out your passive-aggressive tendencies.

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:15ea418b-6783-4b31-9c3a-79afdd4794f1">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm doing if they are living together/married or if they are not going to know anyone.  I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one.  Most of my friends are single and don't care about getting plus one.
Posted by nicolesly730[/QUOTE]
Well, that's very mature of you.

sucrets4

PS - fiance is a boy, fiancee is a girl.  I'm pretty sure you're marrying a boy, so use the first one.

crfische

She's also the genius with her first and soon to be last name posted for the world to see.

Mrs.B6302007

Yep.
The trick for remembering the difference is:

fiance - one "e", guy has one appendage
fiancee - two "e"s, girl has 2 bewbs

crfische

Oh nevermind, it's her first AND last name as an SN. Brilliant.

FYI, I now know where you go to school, where your fiance works, where he went to school, and I've gotten to both of your facebook pages.

sucrets4

zomg fishy, stop being such a STALKER.

Btw, I was super impressed that you were being helpful earlier in this post!  You must be bored, huh? 

crfische

Yeah, it took a turn for the worse here at the end.

brookelynpaisley

Ah, Fish, how I love thee.

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:2e3f720a-13a0-4dcc-a85c-4518cfc5ec4b">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh nevermind, it's her first AND last name as an SN. Brilliant. FYI, I now know where you go to school, where your fiance works, where he went to school, and I've gotten to both of your facebook pages.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
Notice the correct spelling of fiance.   Good job, Guppy.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

crfische

Luckily, I'm not crazy. But if I were you, I'd change my SN and ticker reaaaaaalllllll quick like.

Mrs.B6302007

Oh, this is the same girl who posted the other day on JE when I put up the "newbies, please read" thread.

Guess she didn't read.

crfische

I wonder how her fiance would feel to know that I have his work email address. If you don't care about your own privacy, at least have some respect for your fiance and take his last name down.

sucrets4

fishy - I've started emailing newbs to warn them.  I find it amusing.

saisongbird

Sucrets - that's fantastic.  Just fantastic.  Care to share some of the responses?

flutgrl1

I would feel awkward inviting anyone without a guest if they so choose and would find things to cut otherwise to afford it. What are people w/o dates supposed to do during dancing...do shots at the bar!?

terbear_86

Fishy I am mildly curious to find out what you found when you googled me?

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:4c1c0b32-5668-425e-88c4-cbd3f58f86ef">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]Sucrets - that's fantastic.  Just fantastic.  Care to share some of the responses?
Posted by saisongbird[/QUOTE]

Nothing fun, just the usual "well, this is the first time someone has sent me anything, so I'll just keep it".

I get not wanting to start a new account if you're using the features of the site, but get one for writing on the boards!

crfische

I haven't googled you! I'm not ALL Crazy.

I just google people when I'm trying to prove a a point to people about internet safety. Like, when people have their last names in their bios and SN's. MORONS.

terbear_86

LoL That's why I named us after a network tv show. LOL. try googling that! lmao.