One of my BMs just found out that she has to have an expensive surgery, but is uninsured and currently unemployed. She just paid for her BM dress last week and I feel really bad that my wedding might be adding to her financial strain. I want to offer to pay for her dress and originally wanted to send her a check & a note since I thought that it might be the least awkward for her. What do you think would be the best way to offer?