Bridal Shower Etiquette

AngelaS88

I'm having a small wedding, which means I am not inviting any of my cousins (all 22 yrs old and under). But I would still like to include them in the celebration. Is it considered poor taste to invite them to the bridal shower when they are not invited to the wedding?

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I'm having a small wedding, which means I am not inviting any of my cousins (all 22 yrs old and under). But I would still like to include them in the celebration. Is it considered poor taste to invite them to the bridal shower when they are not invited to the wedding?
Posted by AngelaS88[/QUOTE]

The only people who can be on the shower invite list must also be on the wedding invite list.

Milsey32

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-etiquette-10?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dd244feb-f68f-43c8-bc66-4a6773f48dd2Post:b3204166-addf-48e0-b8af-f1a42184c35e">Re: Bridal Shower Etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, anyone invited to any pre-wedding parties (bridal showers, bach parties) need to be invited to the wedding itself. Otherwise, it comes off as <strong>"You aren't good enough to come to the wedding, but come bring me a present!"</strong> even if you don't mean it that way.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Yuuuupppp. I'm 20 so if my cousin didn't think I was old enough/mature enough/close enough or whatever enough to attend the wedding, I'd be annoyed and would not attend anything ... maybe, just maybe, I would send a Congratulations card - but no gift/check would be included. </div>

mkrupar

I know it may seem like everyone and anyone you know would be dying to celebrate your wedding with you in any way possible, but the reality is, if they're not invited to the wedding itself they're not going to want to celebrate with you by going to your shower or other pre-wedding parties.

You shouldn't invite someone to a pre-wedding event without inviting them to the actual wedding.

Good Luck!

beckys67

Yes, it would be in very poor taste.

LilyWater09

YES!!!!!!!!!

Put yourselves in their shoes.  "Great she invited my to buy her a shower gift but does not care about me enough to share in the big celebration."