Inviting co-workers

Emily Freese

I work with a wonderful group of people.  I would love for them to come to my wedding, but I am getting married 4 states away in the middle of our busiest season of the year.  How do I handle the "I want to intive you, but know you can't attend issue."??  In addition to that, I've custom made, by hand some pretty elaborate invitations and don't have too many extras.  I just don't know what to do!!

Help!

Kristin789

Do nothing.

DH and I got married in the town where I work, which is 30 minutes from the town where DH works, and we invited no one from work.  No problem.

If someone asks you, you can just say, "Oh, no...  My parents hosted the wedding four states away, in the middle of the busiest season of the year, and we couldn't invite everyone because of the family-only focus of the guest list."

thesuninherhead

I hate to say it, but I echo Kirsten's first few sentences.

 

Unless these people are friends who you expect you'll be in touch with in years to come, don't invite them. You've no obligation to invite them based on working with them, and it sounds to me that even though you do like them, you're not particularly keen on giving them an invite (eg. given the fact that hand making them one seems to be a little too much effort for you to put in for them. That doesn't really shout, 'these are important people in my life!' to me). 

Zooloo

If you want to invite them, invite them.  Whether or not they can attend or are willing to travel for your wedding is up to them to decide.  Even if they can't make it, it's a nice gesture.

If you are unwilling to give up invitations for them, don't invite them.  (Reminds me of that old Seinfeld episode of determining whether a guy is sponge worthy...)

danieliza1127

In your situation, I wouldn't invite them at all.  If you want them to come, send them invitations.  It's then up to them whether they'll make the trip or not.  Don't assume they won't because you really never know.  If you just like them a lot but don't necessarily want them to come or don't have enough invitations to invite them, just don't.  I didn't invite any of my co-workers.  Your wedding is family personal event, not a work event.

Galaxy8227

If you really want them there, give them the option to attend, otherwise I wouldn't worry about it.