I posted a while ago about being positive my FI's ex was intending to crash our wedding. She was. I am going to give some backstory, again for some of you, so the current vent makes sense.
We invited FIs daughter to the wedding. Their relationship is strained, so we were not really expecting her attendance.
She RSVP'd that she would be attending with a +1. We did not invite +1's, we invited all guests by name, and truly single guests without companions. When we asked who the +1 was, she replied that it was her mother. The entire family is estranged from the daughter because the mother took her, had her adopted, and threatened people with restraining orders if they contacted her or the daughter (thats the short version) and we told hte daughter that while we understood wanting to bring someone with her as her husband could not attend, we were not ok with the mom attending, just too much opportunity for unresilved feelings. Our wedding would have been the first time anyone had seen the mom or FI's daughter in 15 years. So, the daughter said if mom was not attending she would not either. We told her we would miss her and would put her down as a no.
So, this happened Sunday. Today, the mom emails via FB my FFIL. She tells him that she is not invited, that because she is not invited that her daughter with my FI will not be attending. She then asks if he has any hard feelings against her. If she had stopped there, I would not be so furious. But of course she did not. She then instructed him to tell my FI and I how much we were hurting people by our decision and also told him that he needed to tell us that she needed to be invited.
He did no such thing...in fact, he called my FI and told him about the email. He is not going to reply.
My question...WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS WOMAN???? How many times does she need to be told she is not welcome?!?! She was never invited, when the daughter put her as a +1 she was out there in place of the daughter's husband, not a generic +1. We told the daughter the mom was not invited. She OBVIOUSLY knows this as she asked my FFIL about how he felt and used the exact reasons we put in the refusal to allow her to come.
I am ready to send her an invitation with the names, dates, and times blanked out so she knows she is NOT welcome. Yes, I am kidding, but she seems unable to figure out that she is not welcome no matter who she calls, emails, contacts. bribes, pleas with, or begs!!!
I just don't understand having so little self respect as to keep trying to put yourself in a place you are not wanted.