Wedding Dances

mandi921vh

I plan on dancing with my father at the wedding to a specific song, and FI is still deciding if him and his mother will just dance at the wedding at some point or dance to a specific song. I know FI will dance with my mother at some point, but I am not comfortable at all dancing with my FIL.... is this something I have to do or is it okay to pass on this....

Of course all bets are off if he asks.... (gulp)....

Beachy730

No you don't need to have a special dance with him.  You dance with your dad, not his.  If you mean dancing with him while your FI dances with MIL, I have never seen that.  And if he were to try during that time you could say "I really want H and his mom to have this moment." 

PharmacyBride

Do you mean at some point in the night if he were to ask to dance with you?  You can always turn him down.. but I can see that really offending him.. so if he asks at some point- you should really accept (unless there is a significant history that will make it okay to decline).

IMO, you are worrying about something that will probably not happen.. but if it does.. just suck it up for the 2 minutes and dance.  How bad can it be?

brookelynpaisley

There doesn't need to be a special dance to dance with in-laws. We just did father/bride and mother/groom dances. I never danced with my FIL at the reception, but if he'd asked, I wouldn't have turned him down. Sometimes you just do things for goodwill.

Beachy730

I agree that you are definitely overthinking this, especially being a year and a half out from your wedding.  I think I only "danced" 5 times at the wedding.  3 of those were our 1st dance, my dance with my dad, and our grandparents dance.  Then one of my good friends asked me, and then H and I danced again at the very end of the reception.  Most of the slow songs I was nowhere near the dance floor because I was socializing with people and getting a drink and what not.  I have danced with more people at other peoples weddings than I did my own because I was busy doing other things.  Don't let yourself worry about things like this or you'll go crazy between now and your wedding! 

KentuckyKate

I have never seen a "planned out" in-law dance.  I danced with my FIL and H danced with my mom, but it was during two different songs, and it was when everyone else was on the dance floor dancing, too. 

srkropf

We're not planning on having special songs for those, I'm just putting a note for my photographer to capture those moments on film.

cdlnmf

I had the same thing happen, well, I never thought his dad would ask me to dance with him and believe me, I wasn't really into it either. I just said something along the lines of "oh, thanks, you're so sweet, but i'm on my way to find ::insert person:: for ::insert some other reason::" and then luckily by the time i was around again, he'd clearly forgotten.