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Do I invite the ceremony musicians to the reception?

mariakhristinemariakhristine member
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Not totally sure about all this etiquette-y stuff! We are having a string quartet perform at our wedding ceremony but not for anything else. Do we still invite them to the reception? Obviously we're giving our photographer and band meals/etc., but not sure about the ceremony-only musicians. Thanks!
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    SmallenForeverSmallenForever member
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    I wouldn't. 
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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I wouldn't, either. They are there to do a job only during the ceremony and are being paid for it, so I don't think inviting them is necessary. 
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I wouldn't.  The reason why you are providing meals for your DJ and photographer is because they will be working throughout your entire reception so of course they would have to eat.  For your ceremony musicians you are paying them to only work the ceremony and that is it.  Unless the ceremony musicians are also friends of yours then no don't invite them and even if you did they would most likely decline.

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    gmcr78gmcr78 member
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    We're not.  We are going to invite our priest(s) though.
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    efmcc67efmcc67 member
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    No need to invite the ceremony musicians. I'm a musician and I've played weddings in the past. I've never been invited to the reception unless I was friends with the couple. 
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I would not.  We extended the invitation to our harpist to have one of the vendor meals.  She'd played outside (and it was 82 degrees on a sunny Florida afternoon) and then performed an additional hour at our cocktail hour indoors.  We thought she might like to have dinner.  She was quite surprised and appreciate the offer.
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    CallaLily25CallaLily25 member
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    In Response to Re:Do I invite the ceremony musicians to the reception?:[QUOTE]I wouldn't.nbsp; The reason why you are providing meals for your DJ and photographer is because they will be working throughout your entire reception so of course they would have to eat.nbsp; For your ceremony musicians you are paying them to only work the ceremony and that is it.nbsp; Unless the ceremony musicians are also friends of yours then no don't invite them and even if you did they would most likely decline. Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

    I completely agree with this.

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    mariakhristinemariakhristine member
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    Awesome. I didn't think so, but wanted to make sure. Thanks so much, everyone!
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