second marriage for both do we register for gifts?

kirsten37

I'm wondering what is proper etiquette for bridal registry when you have both been married before? Should we register or not?
Thanks!

mollyehren

I think it depends on if you registered the first time. If you registered the first time it is wrong to do it again. If you did not register the first time it should be fine.

Katelyn89

I'm not sure what the etiquette is for this, but I know if I was a guest at your wedding I wouldn't think twice if you and your FI were say, just buying a house and your previous marriage was years ago versus I just bought a gift off your registry for your first wedding that was in the last few years, kwim? It would definitely be situational for me.

Again, I am not sure what the actual etiquette is and I could be totally off here,

tenofcups4me

I'm not aware of anyone I know in real life registering for a second wedding (including myself). Truthfully, I'd side-eye it.

staceycaine

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_second-marriage-register-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:de6c4f58-82ca-459e-8d5d-92cad6f3066aPost:c4d60bed-5596-43d2-80a2-f95f63698848">Re: second marriage for both do we register for gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it depends on if you registered the first time. If you registered the first time it is wrong to do it again. If you did not register the first time it should be fine.
Posted by mollyehren[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Again. What? No.</div><div>
</div><div>Lots of people register for a second marriage. For a second baby. Etc. 

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kirsten37

Thanks so much!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Technically no. But you don't advertise registries, so it's likely those who don't think you should/would register for a second wedding would even find out.

MyUserName1

WHAT?

yes, you can register.

that is crazy to say that you can't register.

its the first time you've married each other.

whitsy

I quickly searched Emily Post and I don't see anything against it!

Avion22

You most certainly CAN register for gifts for a second marriage.

I can't believe that people think that just because someone got me a vase when I married my late husband nine years ago, that I shouldn't register for placemats now.   

People give gifts at weddings.  Most of them will want to know what to get you.   If there is stuff that you need, or want to upgrade, then go ahead and register for it.  Let your guests decide what they are comfortable giving you.

Edited to add:  There's a "Second Weddings" board under "Special Topic Wedding Boards" on the left.   Those of us on it actually KNOW what the ettiquette is for Second Weddings, so feel to come on over :-)   

kirsten37

Thanks so much! I will be checking out the second marriage topic board.

ricksang

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_second-marriage-register-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:de6c4f58-82ca-459e-8d5d-92cad6f3066aPost:3335cd3c-4b7a-424b-a7b2-8ceaf60be1d7">Re: second marriage for both do we register for gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]WHAT? yes, you can register. that is crazy to say that you can't register. its the first time you've married each other.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
I agree with this and my H and I did so, it was my second marriage.

PhoneCardLady

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_second-marriage-register-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:de6c4f58-82ca-459e-8d5d-92cad6f3066aPost:9a5973c5-e3dc-404b-956b-3eb757b5e264">Re: second marriage for both do we register for gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]I would say that you're in the same boat as people who have lived together for years, or don't need anything. Have a small registry for upgrades or things that need replacing. Some people do like bringing a physical gift, and this gives them an idea of what you like/need.
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]

THIS