Invites?

SarahnVinny

My bridesmaid are disagreeing on this.

Wedding is April 15th. The girls(most, some think the date is too close to the wedding) are planning the bridal shower for march 6th. Is this date too close to the wedding date and if not, when do invites go out for both the wedding and shower?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I think the date is fine.  I mean you don't want to have the shower too far out, that's just stupid.  I had a friend who was getting married in August, and they did her shower in December.  Oh, and then she called off the wedding in March.  Classy, eh?

Send the shower invites out about a month in advance.  Wedding invites are typically 6-8 weeks.

marisah83

That is not too close to have a shower.  The shower invites should go out maybe a month before the shower, and the wedding invites 6-8 weeks ahead.

cougarette

My bridal shower was a month before the wedding.  They were very unorganized and ended up sending the invitations about a week before.  We sent the wedding invitations 7 weeks out.

SarahnVinny

Wow, she had her shower that early? Did she return the gifts?

Thanks, I thought the date was fine too.

SarahnVinny

My girls are pretty organized and on top of things, but they just cant seem to agree on anything.

cougarette

Well that's good!  Not only were my girls unorganized, but it was a "surprise" shower too.  I wanted to tell them to relax, but since I wasn't supposed to know about it I had to keep quiet.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invites-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:df12e7fb-e7cd-4380-b2ed-353ff092e806Post:62fae3c7-97a6-4bbf-a0f6-3cbb27fdd159">Re: Invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, she had her shower that early? Did she return the gifts? Thanks, I thought the date was fine too.
Posted by SarahnVinny[/QUOTE]

I assume she did.  But I don't know for sure.  She's my friend, and I love her, but she's a hot mess and I actually wouldn't put it past her to keep the gifts.

She's saving her wedding dress for when she actually does get married.

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Ditto pp. It is not too close to the wedding to have a shower. My shower was in April and I got married in June.

SarahnVinny

Thanks girls.

HisCB

my shower is going to be 35 days before the wedding. the invites for the shower went out 3-4 weeks out before the shower and about 4-5 weeks before the wedding.

i think too soon is silly, part of the shower is people usually ask about the wedding details, and if its too soon, its more like an engagement party in my opinion.
kinda like a baby shower before the mommy is even showing..

jessienjeremy

My Shower is 3 wks before my wedding.. cause of the holidays and peiople going on vacation.. Its not till January but I have a girlfrind taht is a BM who does prof hair and make up at weddings so we had to pick a date now so that she wouldnt book any weddings that weekend.. so i already know all about my shower...

Kristin789

Too close to the wedding?

Of course not.

Showers are supposed to be held within a 6-week window prior to the event, and May 6 is 6 weeks prior to your wedding.

So May 6 is the FURTHEST from your wedding that the shower can be held.

Birdie1483

I also agree with PP. Most of the showers that I've been to were within a month of the wedding.

As far as invites go, I'm not sure what proper etiquette is, but I would give at least a few weeks notice to guests. I received an invite 3 or so weeks ago for a shower that is next week. We travel almost every weekend so it was nice to have a heads up. When my SIL had her baby shower I had two weeks notice tops, AND it was the holiday season. It was stressful to say the least!

ETA: My timeframe above was for shower invites. I can't remember the timeframe for wedding invites (I think it's around 6-8 weeks, but not sure), but if you look you'll find it somewhere on this board. It's either in the sticky or in the last page or two.