Can I dethrone the MOH??

crc07h

Hello, I just wanted to get some opinions...I asked a friend to be a MOH, sort of because I thought I had to have one, and the bridesmaids were asking who it was going to be etc. Now, the MOH kept making things difficult, and trying to get me to invite all of her friends who live in a different city and I've only met once! So, now I have decided that I don't care about having a MOH, and I just want to have all Bridesmaids or "Honor Attendants". Is it horrible to do this? 

kikibaby

The word 'no' is an amazing thing.

MOH:  "Can you please invite 50 of my closest friends?"

You: "No."

See how easy??

Anysunrise

Well, first you'll have to gather a following of her subjects also dissatisfied with her rule. Then plan a coup, lay siege to her castle, and once you've captured it, behead her and all of her relatives to solidify your claim.

salt78

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[QUOTE]Well, first you'll have to gather a following of her subjects also dissatisfied with her rule. Then plan a coup, lay siege to her castle, and once you've captured it, behead her and all of her relatives to solidify your claim.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

<div>FTW.</div>

squirrly

Just say no to her.  Repeatedly.  And maybe stop talking to her so much so that she has fewer opportunities to ask for stupid things.  But, no, if you still want to be friends you can't take the title away.  Suck it up and deal.

redheadfsu

Yep. Tell her no. don't strip the title or kick her out.
If you do, then plan on ending the friendship for good.

kikibaby

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[QUOTE]Well, first you'll have to gather a following of her subjects also dissatisfied with her rule. Then plan a coup, lay siege to her castle, and once you've captured it, behead her and all of her relatives to solidify your claim.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Awesome.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]You want to push her off the toilet? 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

Ha!  That's what we call it in the Bee Hive and it literally is.  For some reason when the house was built, the toilet is up on a rise above the floor.

Calypso1977

who does this?   not the dethroning part, but rather the MOH needing her friends at some strangers wedding to hold her hand? 

noodle_oo

You just need to learn to say no.  It is not that hard.  And yes, as others said, you can't demote her.  That would just be mean and sounds unnecessary anyway.

As for who asks to invite their friends to your wedding:  I was pretty surprised that DH siblings tried to do this.  I was particularly shocked that his sister asked if we would invite a few of her old friends (one of whom DH can't stand and I only met at said sister's wedding) since she had just had her wedding, so I thought she'd be more understanding of how irritating these types of requests can be!  But then, she also threw a fit that we didn't have her husband in our WP, but whatever.

Anyway, just say no.  It is not that big a deal.

bdriley

Tell her if she wants to inviter her friends then she can pay for your whole wedding.

LD1970

Why is it so hard for people to just say NO?