We're getting down to crunch time. 1 more week until our RSVP's are due (april 1st). We are feeling good about our numbers. Not too many cannot make it and we are so excited. I was talking to FSIL tonight and I found out that my future niece is now dating someone. He's 21, she's 17. I had a feeling that if I said nothing, at the last minute I would find out that future niece wanted to bring a date. So, I took a chance and asked. Does niece want to bring new boyfirieind??? She said, oh yea, I meant to ask you about that, would it be okay???
I would normally not think too much of her bringing a date, however, my concern is due to the ages.
I called FI and told him about his niece wanting to bring 21 year old boyfriend. He freaked out saying that it will cause a ton of drama because if his family sees the boyfriend drinking they will ask why he's drinking underage. Then when they find out he's of age, they will freak out that 17year old niece has a 21 year old boyfriend.
I want to say that it's FSIL's problem to deal with her daughter dating a 21 year old. FI agrees but he says it will cause issues with his parents so he wants to tell her not to bring him.
I said I am open to whatever he decides as it's his family. I am close with his family but I realize it's ultimately his decision and he's going to have to talk with his sister.
I know you will tell me that it's ultimately FI's decision, but what are your thoughts on 17 year old niece brining a 21 year old boyfriend? Should this be a concern? We do not know him and the parents are not the boyfriend's biggest fan. Which is why I don't know why they would even want her to bring him. Advice appreciated, as i don't have children of my own so not sure how to deal with it!