S/O If you could change anything...

baystateapple

...about your wedding, what would it be?

As much as I loved our ceremony and reception venues, I sort of wish I'd gotten married at my church.  The priest that was here when we got engaged (my former boss) and I had a weird relationship, and I didn't want him marrying us, and H really wanted to get married in MA (his home state), so we booked it out there.  But when I go over to the church sometimes I get a little pang, my church is beautiful and it's "home", you know?

I would have given my photographer an explicit list of photos.  She missed so many.

I probably would have gone with blue as one of my colors.  I love it, but everyone convinced me that it was a bad color for fall.  Silly.

I probably would have searched longer for a dress.

Your turn.

ootmother2

a different husband

StephBeanWed61502

Okay, so my wedding isn't until August, but I would've pushed harder for the elopment that I wanted.  FI ruled it out almost immediately, and I went along with the "traditional" wedding because he said it was important to him, but it recently occurred to him that he DGAF about it.  I feel like if I'd pushed harder or talked about it with him longer, he might've come to that realization BEFORE we were tens of thousands of dollars in the hole, rather than after.

mamahappy

They only thing I would change is my dress...I went with a strapless dress and I really wish I would have picked something with straps or sleeves or something.  But everything else was great!

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]a different husband
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

Having been there, done that, I couldn't help but laugh.

ETA: and not laugh *at* you  but at the familiarity of the situation - hope that makes sense

aragx6

I haven't gotten married yet, but I'm starting to regret my venue. The catering manager died and his partner/wife is finishing up the last of the bookings and closing up shop. I get the distinct impression her heart just isn't in it.

Alisha9544

my budget!!  lol I'd have a lot more money

Seriously though I think I wouldn't have picked a "color scheme" but I think I'm still just nervous about everything, but it will be ok & everything will be perfect. Ya know why? Cause when I walk down that isle on Oct 6th the love of my life & the man of my dreams will be there waiting for me!

baystateapple

Oh yeah.  I wouldn't have gone to Montreal for our honeymoon.  It was freezing.  Our cruise got canceled, so rather than wait and go another time, we went to Canada.  Smart move.  I wish we had waited.  We were so tired after the wedding and traveling.

ski2play

I am finally working at my desk and can play a little.  Trouble is, I don't get married for another two weeks. 

Bay, I get what you are saying about your church.  I was married the first time outside of the Catholic Church and have a "pang" about that. 

Habs2Hart

I would have tried harder to get my BM's do wear different dresses.  I let them choose, they all chose the same.

I would have picked a different photog.  She kind of disappointed me.  She took good pictures, but I am disappointed in that half of the pictures are the men getting ready and the other half are the rest of the photos throughout the day... so that sucked.  You don't focus on the groom!

I would have picked a different day.  When my best friend told me she was pregnant and due around that time, I wish I had tried to move the date so she could be there, but it was so up in the air and deposits were already paid. 

I would have used a different tux place.  The tuxes came in completely wrong the day before the wedding and showed up a few hours before the wedding, and H's was still wrong and his pants were broken and he needed to find a seemstress the morning of the wedding.

umm... I don't know... maybe eaten dessert! 
 

AdeleDazeem

I would've made super duper extra sure that my husband's sister could be there.  We checked the date with her a year in advance after I looked up her school schedule.  The wedding fell during her reading period.  She was a senior in college at the time and assured us that all would be well.  Her father heard about the timing, threw a fit, and said that she absolutely could not in any way come to the wedding.  This all went down about four months before the wedding.  I didn't know I had to clear sister's schedule (she's 22) through her father...  :-(

mari0225

I think I was too hasty in choosing my dress and wish that I had waited. Also, I wish I hadn't asked my sister to be a BM.

Matty143

Can I say the weather?
It rained the night before, and all morning so we had to move the ceremony from the garden into the tent the reception was in.
That was a bummer.

Other than that, I wish the reception was longer.

ski2play

ugh, Joy that stinks!

MyUserName1

I would have postponed enough so that we could have afforded the super fancypants place we wanted to begin with. 

I would have added lace cap sleeves to my dress

I would have hired a florist to put together my centerpeices so they would have been assembled correctly.

angelstar975

I haven't had my wedding, but I'm regretting choosing a date in January, for multiple reasons, not the least of which is the possibility of snow.

I also love the venue we went with, but I'm starting to feel like I should have chosen somewhere a little less expensive, or at least somewhere with no minimum headcount. We can only afford so many people but we want to at least get the minimum (150) so we're not paying for people who aren't there, so I don't even know how many to invite.

Oh, and I could do without the church. FI still hasn't done anything about Pre-Cana so I have a feeling I'm going to end up having to book an officiant at the last minute to have the ceremony at the venue.

aragx6

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[QUOTE]I would have postponed enough so that we could have afforded the super fancypants place we wanted to begin with.  I would have added lace cap sleeves to my dress<strong> I would have hired a florist to put together my centerpeices so they would have been assembled correctly.
</strong>Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

This is a big concern of mine. They're basic, but yet another thing to think about ...

aleighk1

I wish I would've wrote down pictures I wanted because I missed a few.

I would've told the DJ to NOT take requests from H. Then, the best man's leg would probably not be broken right now. 

I would've hired a day of coordinator. I think that's it. I really enjoyed our wedding and wish I could've remembered more of it haha

FutureGray

I would have done a little more double-checking on the claims of our venue coordinator, who told me they had a portable sound system that would work for our outdoor reception. It turned out to be so underpowered and quiet that no one could hear anything, and we just skipped having music altogether. Missed out on having my first dance, and it still makes me sad when I hear that song come on.

All in all though, it was a great. day.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : This is a big concern of mine. They're basic, but yet another thing to think about ...
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>Mine seemed simple to me, but the dudes at the venue managed to fucck them up even though I did one table for them.</div><div>
</div><div>My entire wedding was a disaster though, so it's really not one of my major concerns.  Just one of the few concerns that I could have controlled.</div>

Habs2Hart

I also would have tried to save some more money here and there.  Not sure on what exactly, but on something.  All that money would sure be helpful in our house hunt!

mari0225

Also, I would've made sure my cousin knew which song to sing during the Unity Sand part, while I love "Mama's Song" I really wanted "When You Say Nothing At All" Apparently my cousin forgot.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I would have worn my hair up. It was freakishly hot that day and by the end of the night my hair was a mess. I would have not included family for the WP or any WR ceremony things. It ended up causing more drama. Would have made sure the guitarist for the ceremony remembered all of his parts! The ceremony ended up starting like 15 minutes late because he forgot a piece and had to rewrite all of the music on the spot.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

My family that was in the WP caused drama as well, oh well lesson learned.

erollis

I would have saved up more money to have a meal time reception. 

Would have listened to my gut to make a cd of the important songs (first dance, recessional, etc.) instead of not doing it because I was to stressed out. Our DJ's computer gave out the day before the wedding and he had very little back up music. He only had cd's from the 90's.

Hired a DOC so I wouldn't be bothered before the ceremony. People kept barging in asking me for impute, questions and wanting me to solve problems. This stressed me out and I had no time to get dressed causing the ceremony to start late. I also didn't get a chance to take in that I was getting married until I was walking down the aisle with my dad. No special moments with my mom or dad. They were all staged in a hurry because there was no time for it to naturally happen.

rlavach

I would’ve started earlier & been sterner with my friend who was my MUA. She took too long on everyone & made us run late for pics. I didn’t get any solo bridal shots. I would’ve delegated tasks out earlier in the process so I wouldn’t have been as stressed.

 

The biggest, though, is I would’ve waited an extra 1-2 days after the wedding before leaving on our honeymoon so my DH could say bye to his family. They flew in & he hadn’t seen them in 5y, so he spent the whole HM all emotional over the fact that he won’t see them again for years. Basically made it pretty miserable. 

aleighk1

I kind of wish I would've asked FI's sisters to be BMs. We had a falling out before the wedding and almost didn't invite his mom but now things are good between us and I kind of regret it.

Mrs.B6302007

Location.

I really, really wanted to get married in the spot where my grandmother's house stood in Tennessee in The Smoky Mnt NP.  I put it out of my head pretty quickly though because I knew we wouldn't be able to include all of the friends we wanted to if we went that route.  It's also very difficult for my MIL to travel (she has MS) so we had a local wedding. 

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I would’ve started earlier & been sterner with my friend who was my MUA. She took too long on everyone & made us run late for pics. I didn’t get any solo bridal shots. I would’ve delegated tasks out earlier in the process so I wouldn’t have been as stressed.   The biggest, though, is I would’ve waited an extra 1-2 days after the wedding before leaving on our honeymoon so my DH could say bye to his family. They flew in & he hadn’t seen them in 5y, so he spent the whole HM all emotional over the fact that he won’t see them again for years. Basically made it pretty miserable. 
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

My sister almost made me late to the ceremony so I didn't get any solo bridal shots either, I haven't thought much about it but there are some pics I wish that I had done.

crash2729

I would have picked a different florist. Mine put pink roses on my cake and in the corsages, didn't bring a toss bouquet and most of the corages wilted within an hour. When I contact her about it she was so arrogant it was ridiculous.

I probably would have picked a different venue. Ours was just so inflexible and rude to boot. But it was pretty.

I wouldn't have bent over backwards to accomodate write-ins (1 out of 4 actually showed.) and I probably wouldn't have invited my mother for hair and make-up

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]. I would've told the DJ to NOT take requests from H. Then, the best man's leg would probably not be broken right now. 
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]

What??  I'm sitting back for story time.

erollis

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[QUOTE]I would have postponed enough so that we could have afforded the super fancypants place we wanted to begin with.  I would have added lace cap sleeves to my dress<strong> I would have hired a florist to put together my centerpeices so they would have been assembled correctly.</strong>
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
This for me too. We just didn't have quiet enough money. The wrong flowers got delivered and our centerpieces looked nothing like the mock ups.