Child getting adult meal for this reason?

Grits8812

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[QUOTE]Holy wow that's expensive, sorry haha. An average plate at our venue is like $27/pp. Not including drinks of course but still. My venue is in Minneapolis, MN. On topic - I agree with kid's meal. As PPs have said, there should be plenty of food for him to fill up on.<strong> If he really needs to eat that much maybe the parents could bring an extra snack? </strong>Stupid, but if he really eats THAT much maybe they need to.
Posted by jennipea382[/QUOTE]
This is what my fiance said.  I understand kids get the munchies and crabby when they get hungry, but that's a lot of extra money to spend on a meal just in case he is extra hungry that day.

GreenEire

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Child getting adult meal for this reason? : I live about 30 minutes from St. Louis, depending on how fast you drive. :)
Posted by Grits8812[/QUOTE]

30 minutes in which direction?  (Sorry to threadjack, but there's so few of us on here from the Lou, so I'm nosy.)  :)

Starfish0116

I agree with others. Serve him the kids meal and don't worry about it. It's not worth the potential backfire from other guests with children about why he got the adult plate. Technically it's rude for any of your guests to question why you do things, but we all know people these days have no problem speaking their minds. If he eats THAT much food then his parents should be aware of it and it's up to them to figure it out. 

On another note, I feel it's unfair for people to tell the OP her food is too expensive. If that's what they want to serve for their guests, and are comfortable with it, that's up to them. To me, food is pretty important and my food is costing more than most would spend - but I also cut back in other areas to do it. 

krizzo17

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[QUOTE]I agree with others. Serve him the kids meal and don't worry about it. It's not worth the potential backfire from other guests with children about why he got the adult plate. Technically it's rude for any of your guests to question why you do things, but we all know people these days have no problem speaking their minds. If he eats THAT much food then his parents should be aware of it and it's up to them to figure it out.  On another note, I feel <strong>it's unfair for people to tell the OP her food is too expensive. If that's what they want to serve for their guests, and are comfortable with it, that's up to them</strong>. To me, food is pretty important and my food is costing more than most would spend - but I also cut back in other areas to do it. 
Posted by Starfish0116[/QUOTE]


Agreed!

And OP - tell your mom that you've noticed some of the adult guests don't eat a lot, so you'll be feeding them a kids meal instead. She should figure it out real fast ;)

Rose March

Kid should be fine with kid's meal. If he's still hungry set it up so he could have more even if they charged you for an extra meal (which I doubt) that's an extra 25 instead of 115. Most kids don't finish their meal and at 7 courses any adult would be stuffed. Child menu is of more of a palette issue, I'm sure the ten year old would rather have chicken and fries than fillet and lamb. I knew a kid that ate tons but only hamburgers, hot dogs, grilled cheese and PB&J would eat 4 of 5 at a time but if you put filet in front of him he would have gone hungry. If you gave the adult meals to all the kid I'm sure most would only pick at their $115 upgrade and it would be a great waste. Assure your mom that "little Tommy eats like a horse" will not go home full but of the kid option.

becka717

Agree w/ Starfish.

The 10 year old does not need an adult meal.  Maybe ask the venue if they could put a few extra chicken tenders on his plate.  With that many courses I would be stuffed, and I can eat a lot.  I think there should be enough food for all your guests.  All the children I am inviting are under 10, except for 1 thirteen year old.  I might ask his mom if he wants an adult meal or maybe a double children's meal, depending on if he likes either of the adult choices, or would rather have chicken fingers.

Justpeachy4397

if this 10 year old has some sort of medical condition where he needs to eat an exorbitant amount, then maybe you can give him 2 children's meals.

aragx6

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[QUOTE]I agree with others. Serve him the kids meal and don't worry about it. It's not worth the potential backfire from other guests with children about why he got the adult plate. Technically it's rude for any of your guests to question why you do things, but we all know people these days have no problem speaking their minds. If he eats THAT much food then his parents should be aware of it and it's up to them to figure it out. <strong> On another note, I feel it's unfair for people to tell the OP her food is too expensive. If that's what they want to serve for their guests, and are comfortable with it, that's up to them. To me, food is pretty important and my food is costing more than most would spend - but I also cut back in other areas to do it.</strong> 
Posted by Starfish0116[/QUOTE]

Completely agree. And it's funny to me to make this about location anyway -- there are absolutely venues in St. Louis that charge that kind of money.

Also I think that's a great price for the kids meal and agree that it is mostly to do with the bar. A 10-year-old should be fine with all that you're offering and I wouldn't worry about it.

tanyanubin

I would also stick with the children's plates all around. He'll be fine. lol. On another note--Grits8812!! What a cute little goat!

andra loves andre

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Child getting adult meal for this reason? : Jumping on the bandwagon - Thank you for saying this.  This thread was really starting to rub me the wrong way.  If a couple wants to spend that much per person, it's their choice.  I'm choosing to spend a significant amount of money on my food & drink at the reception because FI and I can and want to have a more formal event.  I really don't need to hear that it costs someone $10 per person for food because I can guarantee it would be a completely different wedding than mine.   Also, ditto PP, that $145 for adults probably includes 1. alcohol and 2. accounts for the fact that the adults will probably eat more appetizers during the cocktail hour.  
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>The price does include alcohol, it's a fully stocked premium bar (around 60 types of different bottles) which is open for 7 hours. Originally the venue only wanted to give the children their typical main course, without anything before OR after (other than wedding cake, obviously). We didn't like that idea, since we felt that it contrasted too much with the adults' 7-course dinner, so we negotiated for them to have everything else except the first main course (which they deemed was the most costly).</div><div>
</div><div>I think we did more than enough for the children, seeing as the venue even recommended that we don't have them there in the first place. </div><div>
</div><div>When I woke up this morning I talked to my mom about what all you ladies said, and now she is not talking to me at all... pure silent treatment. Sigh.</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Gah, I was seeing red while reading this. Grits, how would you feel if someone said, "OMG, you're ONLY spending $10 per person for dinner? I wouldn't even feed my dog a meal that cost so little. Your guests will think you're soooo tacky." Doesn't feel good, huh? Then stop judging other people for how much they spend.

Habs2Hart

Thank God someone said something.  I was reading the first page yelling in my head "It's none of your damn business where she lives, or how much she's spending on food!"

I hardly think grilled chicken and sweet potato fries is baby food.  Hell, there will probably be some adults looking at his plate going "I wish I could have that". 

You can't please everyone.  No 10 year old needs to eat like that.  It's too much food for adults to begin with, let alone a kid.  Your mom is being unreasonable.

jessicabessica

You are feeding the kids plenty of food.  Does your mom just want you to feed this one kid steak, or does she want you to pay the full adult price for this kid (realizing that alcohol is included in that)?  Can you point out to her some of the specific other courses that the kids will have?  "Well, little Johnnie will have to get his red meat fix at dinner by sharing with his parents, but he can enjoy the beef wellington appetizers, etc. earlier in the evening."  The kids' entree sounds nice and not too childish. 

Also, OP you don't need to apologize for or otherwise explain the money you're spending on your wedding.  There are brides with all different budgets here. 

jennipea382

Sorry I mentioned how expensive it was, didn't mean any disrespect by it. Looking at it further though, if it include 7 courses and bar, I guess it's really not that bad. I guess I was just a little shocked! Hell, if I could afford it I'd love to do something like that!

Also, sorry your mom doesn't seem to see where you're coming from. From what I understand, the ONLY difference is that one course. I really don't get how a kid can eat that much. TBH I'm not sure I could eat an entire 7 course meal, haha.

andra loves andre

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[QUOTE]Sorry I mentioned how expensive it was, didn't mean any disrespect by it. Looking at it further though, if it include 7 courses and bar, I guess it's really not that bad. I guess I was just a little shocked! Hell, if I could afford it I'd love to do something like that! Also, sorry your mom doesn't seem to see where you're coming from. From what I understand, the ONLY difference is that one course. I really don't get how a kid can eat that much. TBH I'm not sure I could eat an entire 7 course meal, haha.
Posted by jennipea382[/QUOTE]

<div>Don't worry about it, no offense taken at all! </div><div>
</div><div>I'm not sure how weddings are here, but in my culture, they typically involve a lot of food or else people can actually get super offended. Sometimes I see it as a huge waste of food (since I've seen a lot left over at other weddings), so we're trying to space out the courses throughout the seven hours we have the room so that people don't get too stuffed all at once :)</div>

Calypso1977

i could see this if the kids meal was a pizza or chicken fingers or other "kid food".  in your instance, the kids meal is really a mini- adult meal.  its real food - roasted chicken, not some nasty chemically produced nugget concoction.

if the kid is a big eater, the parents shoudl know this, and can pack some snacks in the event he is  hungry beyond the apps and meal.

Calypso1977

He usually drops by the table, grabs some stuff on a plate, then takes it to the couch to eat while playing

what a shame his parents allow this.

JennLax

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Child getting adult meal for this reason? : I'd say that's bad luck.  No offense to you at all, but I would be in shock if I was told food cost that much.  
Posted by Grits8812[/QUOTE]

I live just outside of Toronto and prices here ARE that high -- it is CRAZY.   We just want a casual BBQ menu of hamburgers and hotdogs -- and one place was charging $90 a head!   Being a Canadian bride is not fun :(  I see all sorts of amazing prices for wedding dresses, bridesmaid dresses, and DIY craft products in the States and get SO jealous.

Thinking of my friends weddings... most paid around $120 a head for food.

JennLax

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Child getting adult meal for this reason? : We live in Toronto. Not the most expensive city, but not the cheapest either. And we had the "bad luck" of falling in love with one of the top venues: Atlantis Pavillions.
Posted by andra loves andre[/QUOTE]

Hey Andra!

My brother is getting married at Atlantis as well :)  Their wedding is September 1, 2012.  Feel free to pm me if you have any questions about their experience (I see your big day isn't until next year). 

And BTW -- they are ordering the kids meal for me because even though I am 26, I have the tastebuds of an 8 year old hahah

Your mom will hopefully come to her senses soon and realize that she is being silly.. there is no way that a 10 year old needs that much food!