My DH's brother had a baby recently and they are having her baptised next month. We won't be able to attend as it is out of town (a flight away) for us. We basically could afford going to either the baptism or going to visit them to meet the baby another time. So we chose to visit them because that way we'd get to spend more time with them and our new nephew, whereas the baptism is going to be a HUGE event (over 100 guests) and we figured we wouldn't really get to spend time with them.
So, I didn't even think about it but someone asked what we were getting them for the baptism. We spent almost $1000 on the trip to visit them. I wasn't planning on a present. But the wife is the kind who will notice if we don't send anything if we are supposed to. I should note that we are not religious, I've never been to a baptism before.
So: are we supposed to send a present? If so what? TIA!