It's Wednesday night, ninjas!

kcscejal

I'm so sorry for your loss missy.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Wednesday night, ninjas! : I know the feeling! I've lost a bunch of weight over the past year, albeit not nearly as much or as quickly as I'd hoped, because I keep sabotaging myself. It's so frustrating to have been at it for so long and not be closer to my goal. I'm so tired of being fat! Just tired of it. That's why I'm being so hard on myself right now.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

One of the best things you can do (which was imprinted in to my brain tonight) is to not think negatively. Negative thoughts lead to negative emotions which leads to negative behaviors (ie: overeating, binging, etc.). Of course I've known this for a year now, it's just harder to remember as stress continues to build. Gotta stay positive.

musicalsunlight

There is nothing else on tv so I'm watching toddlers and tiaras. One of the moms just admitted that she had children solely to do pageants. I feel sick to my stomach.

[Deleted User]

It is SO hard krups! I've been feeling really, really down on myself lately. I don't even know how to get myself into a positive mindset anymore.

MattsPenguin

Holy Eff, I'm back at work.  I've had two drinks, because of our department holiday party, but I've got to get stuff done.  I worked 17 hours on Monday and 12 yesterday.  Working on hour #9 today.  

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Musu, it's that type of person that should be on the list of people that are not allowed to have children.  Seriously.  Living vicariously, much?
Posted by Holly4212011[/QUOTE]

Right? I mean, what if the kid decided they didn't want to do pageants? The same woman also admitted she was disappointed she had one boy (and has another daughter) because she wanted all girls. So she makes him to pageants too.

musicalsunlight

Yikes, MP. NO fun. I wonder if that will be J's future as an engineer, crazy hours like that.

mkrupar

I know Daff. It's hard. The counselor made us all list three of our biggest blessings. That helped get me thinking positively. You might benefit from some cognitive restructuring. It helps take a negative thought, breaks it down into fact vs. what you believe to be true, and helps you come up with another way of thinking about a situation that isn't negative.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Musu, those poor children.  I can only imagine how the mother would treat the child if she decided she didn't like doing pageants.  What if the little girl wanted to play baseball?  I'm sure that's out of the question.  Can't be getting dirty or breaking any of those fake nails. That is not how a 6 year old should live.
Posted by Holly4212011[/QUOTE]


I remember when I used to get packages in the mail for pageants. I loooooved looking at the brochures. They had so many pretty photos of girls in fancy dresses and talking about money prizes. I always wanted to do one but it cost SO MUCH to do. I am glad for that now haha.

musicalsunlight

Bree! TK seems to be behaving tonight. Tell Ninja that Tory says hi.

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Does that cognitive restructuring require counseling? I just feel like I don't have time for that, I'm hanging on by a thread as it is. I also don't really want anyone up in my head like that...

(denial)

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]Bree! TK seems to be behaving tonight. Tell Ninja that Tory says hi. :)
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>DON'T JINX IT!!!</div>

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]Yikes, MP. :( NO fun. I wonder if that will be J's future as an engineer, crazy hours like that.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

When there's a deadline?  Probably.  As a co-op for a transportation company, I stayed at work until 4:00am.  The good news is that I get paid for every hour that I work.  If I were salaried, you bet your ass I'd be leaving after 8 hours.

mkrupar

I learned it from my counselor, but try googling it. You might get the gist of it from that. It's something that we as humans need to practice because we're programmed to always go toward negative thinking.

musicalsunlight

Haha that is funny, Holly. I know perfectly well adjusted normal people can do pageants. But I guess this show just scares me into thinking differently, haha.

MattsPenguin

And Musu, that makes me so sad for those pageant kids.  What happens when they don't do well?  Does their parent love them less?

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]And Musu, that makes me so sad for those pageant kids.  What happens when they don't do well?  Does their parent love them less?
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I know. I hope that isn't the case, but who knows. :( For me, part of the excitement of having kids someday is figuring out what kind of person they will be and what they will be interested, whatever that may be. (Provided it isn't illegal, hah) KWIM?

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Well I'm definitely a pessimist. I'll look around. I can tell you that my brain is hard wired to equate thinness with high self esteem and overweightness with low self esteem. I think it would take years of reprogramming to make a dent in all that.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Musu, the people on that show are fucking nuts.  I don't think FI's parents lived for pageants or anything; it was something that I think his sisters enjoyed doing. 
Posted by Holly4212011[/QUOTE]


Yeah, I realize that these people are the extreme. Just like most TLC shows, haha. The entire channel is devoted to shows of the extreme. Like I just watched that Virgin Diaries? And holy fvck the couple on it was so creepy. They were LICKING each other's mouths on camera. WTF.

MattsPenguin

I wonder that, too.  I keep joking that if our kids aren't good at math and science, I won't know what to do!  I just hope that I don't become a stage mom or try to live out my unacquired dreams through them.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]TR - Manda, Anna, Cfas, Sarah#s, and I were all about to road trip your way on Saturday. Manda was talking about how the last person she knew down there had just moved away and she didn't have a place to stay anymore. We reminded her that you're down there now. I think a girls trip to SC would be so very awesome!
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

<div>Yay-yuh!  We have a whole guest bedroom and bathroom for visitors complete with a queen sized bed :) </div>

mkrupar

Well don't be surprised to find us knocking on your door one of these days. :-)

musicalsunlight

Haha, MP, that is me and with reading/arts/writing. Except J is sciency and math so we can hopefully cater to either side for our kids. Our kids are going to grow up having to be both MN and WI sports fans if they like sports though. :P

[Deleted User]

Yer gonna find some hairy legs most likely. It's not a good scene.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]Well I'm definitely a pessimist. I'll look around. I can tell you that my brain is hard wired to equate thinness with high self esteem and overweightness with low self esteem. I think it would take years of reprogramming to make a dent in all that.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Sadly I think that's how a lot of people are programmed. Whether it be because they were picked on for being overweight as a child or from being bombarded by images of thinness = good in the media, I think a lot of people have that exact same perception. I've always had pretty good self esteem no matter my size, but I do know that I always feel better about myself when I'm smaller.

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I think it came from my mom. She always was the same way - equating thin with feeling good about herself and fat with feeling bad against herself. She and I were extremely close, and we dieted together over the years, so I inherited her thought processes and her quirks in this sense. She didn't mean to do it, she was a wonderful mom, but yeah I think she's largely responsible for my body image issues.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Wednesday night, ninjas! : Or they will pick the Bears and Cubs or Sox. =P
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

AHHH that would be terrible, haha. Well, I would be SLIGHTLY ok with the Cubs, because they are NL and the Twins are AL, so they rarely ever play each other. But not the Sox! Or the Bears! But really i mostly care about baseball. hahah.

MattsPenguin

Regarding sports, no matter where we live, my kids will be brain washed worshipping the Big Ten and ACC.  None of this SEC or Boston pro-sports crap (well specifically the Patriots, I don't mind the Red Sox.)

ETA:  I meant SEC crap.  UGH!! At least this year one of them will LOSE the National Championship.

mkrupar

That makes sense Daff. If you (general you) grow up with that perception (intentional or not) that that's what you'll come to believe. I think I remember AATB talking some about her and her sister/s having body issues because of their mom.

I need to go to bed now. Maybe read for a bit. Chin up. Think positive. Maybe we'll get out of our funk together. :-)

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]I think it came from my mom. She always was the same way - equating thin with feeling good about herself and fat with feeling bad against herself. She and I were extremely close, and we dieted together over the years, so I inherited her thought processes and her quirks in this sense. She didn't mean to do it, she was a wonderful mom, but yeah I think she's largely responsible for my body image issues.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm the same way with my mom.  I was really scrawny and skinny as a kid and that was the other end of feeling badly about myself, but my mom has always been overweight so I think she pushed that I should be happy no matter what because "at least I'm not fat."  And I can remember doing Sweatin' to the Oldies next to her in the living room.  So once I wasn't always the skinniest person in the room I felt like I had nothing else.  Because, to my mom, being thin was everything.</div><div>
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