I have seen all the posts about inviting people to the shower and not the wedding but I am having a bit of a different situation....I am getting married, but this question is actually about a friend of mine who is also getting married. She is having a destination wedding but after talking with her it didn't sound like it would be very small or a family only kind of thing. We both live away from each other and our home towns but we have kept in some contact...talking here and there and a few months ago actually talking about our weddings. Well I kept seeing on facebook people saying they got the save the dates for the wedding....but I had not gotten anything. Then I got a invitation to the bridal shower.I asked a mutual friend who seems to be involved in the wedding about whether or not I was invited (and how awkward I felt about it) and she has just ignored me. Its been over a week and no response. So now I am in a weird place....I dont think I want to go to the shower if I am not invited to the wedding (which I am thinking I am not...she never even asked for my new address until she was sending the shower invites). Before I knew I wasnt invited to the wedding and I recieved the shower invite I told her I could not wait to see her and that I wouldn't miss it.I understand money situations and not being able to invite everyone...I am planning a wedding too, I get it. But I do not understand her etiquette. She could have let me know that before inviting me to the shower that she just couldn't invite everyone blah blah..but nothing. I have known her for a few years and I thought we were closer than that. I am hurt because I honestly never even thought twice about her not inviting me or me not inviting her to mine. Its like I am good enought to buy her an expensive gift but not to celebrate her day?What should I do? Just not show up to shower? No word or anything...after I already told her I would come?Sorry this is so long..I am really confused about this mess.