Ok, so... our wedding is all weird etiquette-wise, but anyway... here goes:
1) my fiancee's brother is already married, and we're pretty close with them as a couple. her SIL is hosting our bridal shower.
2) it's a gay wedding, and my future father in law (sorry i don't know all the acronyms) is not invited b/c he doesn't want to be (long story), thus..
3) my fiancee is undecided about inviting many of her own aunts/uncles/relatives b/c it may cause much family drama. (i sort of think she should invite who she wants, father's opinion be damned, but he's not my dad so i'm keeping my mouth shut).
4) back to #1, my FSIL is inviting her mom and her sister to the bridal shower, because they're all really close. i haven't met them but my fiancee of course knows them.
so... if they're invited to the shower, they should be invited to the wedding, right? it seems a little strange to invite them if we're not even inviting many of my fiancee's own blood relatives (not really by choice, though)... and they're being invited to the shower by FSIL, not really by us... ummm? what do we do?
thx in advance for any help!!!