family and invitations

KatyRoseM

We are having a wedding in Utah which my parents have generously offered to pay for.  They are planning on having 120-150 guests, however they have just sent me their list of invitations and it is 140, and they are missing people they know they want to invite.  They insist we should invite everyone we want too, as should his parents.  They just don't get the idea of not inviting more people then you are planning on having.  The venue holds more people, so thats not the problem, they just won't plan well.  What should I do?

quotequeen

Are they able and willing to pay the additional money if all of these people show up along with all of your FI's guests?

september's bride

Ditto PP. Are they going to pony up for all the extra people they tacked on to your wedding? If not, I'd be working to find a compromise. I don't like other people calling the shots so I try not to get into situations like that, but if your wedding is going to consist of your parents' friends...yeah, I'd be paying my own way.

squirrly

Tell them the cost of inviting all of those people and confirm that the budget is ok if they all attend.

andyandhillary

Agreed with PPs.  My parents were doing the same thing and just weren't realizing the cost.  Maybe doing a rough estimate of how much the total would be with everyone you wanted to invite and presenting them with that would be a good wake up call.  Sometimes people just need numbers crunched for reality to set in.

KatyRoseM

We are doing the numbers thing tonight.  I don't mind my parents friends being there, so thats not the big deal, the issue is that they won't seem to understand that its possible for everyone to come.  They just think its impossible.  I'll try pointing it out to them again, maybe when they see that the guest list is going to be about 250, and even with their theory that 30% won't come its over 150 they will get it.