Where's the usual Friday threads?

LauraT25

I found it Rosie, and it was her.  Good memory!

Rosie109

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[QUOTE]Rosie - do you think you're coming to the knottie holiday party at Manda's?
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

<div>I think so! I just have to make sure I don't plan anything for those two days! Just in case. I am thinking of what to bring.. besides my dancing shoes.</div>

FutureMrsTR

Yay!   I think I'm driving LTB so you can jump in if you want.  Save some gas, save the environment, all that jazz.

LauraT25

I know where LTB lives!  I'm creepy like that

Also, that girl who doesn't want her nephew to pick his own reading posted about it on another board.  It seems that the reason he doesn't feel comfortable reading it is that he's not religious, and it's a religious reading:

"He hasn't even selected a poem...he wants to find one yet. So, no he doesn't have one that reminds him of us, and that would be difficult since they live in Oregon and he has only seen me twice since FI and I have been together. I am pretty sure that it will be a very weird poem, FSIL and son are very "new ageie" and don't believe in organized religon and I am sure that ia one of the reasons they don't like our poem, it mentions God. Religon and church is very important to my FI and I and we want it to be the focus of our ceremony.
I am pretty sure that any poem he picks will be "vetoed" by me."

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : Would you atleast listen to his suggestion before knocking it?
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

Possibly. But if I had a poem in mind for MY wedding that I really loved then why would I?

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : I told her that she could pick a few other choices and see if he liked any of those, or see if she and her FI liked what he came up with.  I wasn't suggesting that he just pick something and she goes with whatever he chooses.
Posted by LauraT25[/QUOTE]

You didn't state that in this thread. I am responding to what you wrote here.

LauraT25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : Possibly. But if I had a poem in mind for MY wedding that I really loved then why would I?
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

That's fine.  If I had my heart set on something, though, and the person I asked to read it said that they were uncomfortable, I would either pick something else or ask someone else to read it. 

LauraT25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : You didn't state that in this thread. I am responding to what you wrote here.
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

I know, I was just clarifying.  I wasn't upset or anything.

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : That's fine.  If I had my heart set on something, though, and the person I asked to read it said that they were uncomfortable, I would either pick something else or ask someone else to read it. 
Posted by LauraT25[/QUOTE]

So what's the big deal, then? Maybe this couple has their heart set on a poem. Did she say if she was considering having someone else read it? I feel she is being unfairly judged for wanting a spedific poem read at her wedding and not giving in to a child about it.

LauraT25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : So what's the big deal, then? Maybe this couple has their heart set on a poem. Did she say if she was considering having someone else read it? I feel she is being unfairly judged for wanting a spedific poem read at her wedding and not giving in to a child about it.
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm judging her for the fact that she's having a temper tantrum about it.  And bringing her FSIL's finances into it for no reason.  To me it's her whole attitude, not that she's upset that the kid doesn't want to read what she picked.  If she came on and said, "I'm upset because my nephew doesn't want to do the reading I picked, what should I do?" it would be different.

Additionally, I thought her responses to constructive criticism were unreasonable, and after I saw that it was because it was a religious reading, and the nephew isn't religious, I thought it was extra ridiculous.  You obviously don't have to agree.

Edit: No, she didn't say if she was considering someone else, she was just pissed that a 13 year-old was 'dictating what is done at her wedding'

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm judging her for the fact that she's having a temper tantrum about it.  And bringing her FSIL's finances into it for no reason.  To me it's her whole attitude, not that she's upset that the kid doesn't want to read what she picked.  If she came on and said, "I'm upset because my nephew doesn't want to do the reading I picked, what should I do?" it would be different. Additionally, I thought her responses to constructive criticism were unreasonable, and after I saw that it was because it was a religious reading, and the nephew isn't religious, I thought it was extra ridiculous.  <strong>You obviously don't have to agree.</strong>
Posted by LauraT25[/QUOTE]

You're right. I don't have to agree.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : Possibly. But if I had a poem in mind for MY wedding that I really loved then why would I?
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

Agreed. It took my husband and I a while to carefully pick our readings. We had 1 we would have been comfortable substituting, but we picked poems with meaning to us.

Beachy730

Is anyone else disturbed by the amount of never before heard of people posting in the "how long did you wait thread"?  It definitely just opened my eyes to just how many people lurk here. 

Beachy730

Which one?  The one about reading, or how long did you wat?

LauraT25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's the usual Friday threads? : Agreed. It took my husband and I a while to carefully pick our readings. We had 1 we would have been comfortable substituting, but we picked poems with meaning to us.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

We had kind of a weird situation because my MIL really<strong> </strong>wanted to do a reading, but was very nervous about it and was afraid she would freeze or freak out or something.  So we spent a long time looking through readings and picked several for her to choose from, because we really wanted her to be comfortable with whatever she read.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Where is this thread? It isn't on E, is it?
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

Yeah it was on here a few days ago.  I have my posts sorted by most recently active, so it keeps showing up at the top.

<a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_long-did-wait">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_long-did-wait</a>

opalsky007

Since it was a popular thread, it probably got linked in the weekly newsletter. Every time they do that, tons of newbs pour in with no idea what's going on and rattle off their life's story.

I hate it, because it's hard to mod threads that have 28947932857 posts by people you've never heard of, but I guess it's how some folks "discover" the boards and decide to stick around.

Beachy730

Ahhh, that makes sense Opal.  Haha how come our FFF threads never get linked in the weekly newsletter?

kellyjellybelly

Beachy - how did your drunken picture hanging go the other night?

Beachy730

It wasn't too bad.  She had a ton of those Hercules hooks, so they were pretty awesome actually.  Luckily the only really heavy thing with 2 hanging spots so it required measuring was a mirror, and it was one of the first things we hung. 

squirrly

We had a really hard time picking readings that were important to us.  Had someone we asked to do a reading refused on the grounds they didn't like the reading or whatnot, we'd have had somebody else read it.

I'm not religious.  I did a huge reading during my friend's Catholic wedding.  Honestly, it's one of those things like wearing a BM dress you don't like to me - you just do it.  Assuming that it's not KKK literature or something else equally offensive, you suck it up or step down - you don't ask to change the reading. 

The content of the ceremony is one thing that I think should be the 100% purview of the bride and groom.  It should speak to and of them.  If they WANT somebody to choose a reading on their own, ok, but if they've already picked one - done deal. 

kellyjellybelly

I love hercules hooks.  they are all over my house.  I actually have a ton of shiit I need to hang. maybe if my neck is feeling better tomorrow, I'll make that my goal for the weekend.

LauraT25

Not to beat a dead horse, but it's not that I disagree with you, Squirrly.  I'm sure if someone had not wanted to do a reading that you or Bubba had selected, both of you would have handled it more maturely than the other poster did (IMO).

FWIW, I would probably still do a religious reading for a friend even though I'm not religious.  I'm not saying the nephew is totally within his rights, I just think the OP isn't handling it well.

Beachy730

Squirrly I completely agree with you on it being the same as wearing a dress you don't like.  1 of our 3 readers in our Catholic ceremony wasn't Catholic, and 1 of the 2 people bringing up the gifts wasn't either.  Had they declined for that reason, we would have asked someone else. 



KJB- I definitely want to get some for myself.  My plan for the weekend is probably to get a new book.  I only have 1 chapter left in your book, and I'm thinking I'll get a new one.  I wish I read more because then I would just get a kindle. 

squirrly

I didn't go read the other post, so I can't comment on her reactions.  But on the original question, my response stands.  And, my H's name isn't Bubba.  Where the eff did that come from? 

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I didn't go read the other post, so I can't comment on her reactions.  But on the original question, my response stands.  And, my H's name isn't Bubba.  Where the eff did that come from? 
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

Bubba was the other poster disagreeing with her on the issue.

squirrly

AHhhhhhh!  Bubbalub.  Ok.  Much less confused now. 

Beachy730

Unless Laura just makes pet names for all of our H's now.  I guess that is the other possibility. 

LauraT25

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[QUOTE]I didn't go read the other post, so I can't comment on her reactions.  But on the original question, my response stands.  <strong>And, my H's name isn't Bubba.  Where the eff did that come from? </strong>
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

I see DN cleared it up, but I just wanted to say I laughed when I read that.  I should have been clearer, but it was a funny misunderstanding.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Annnnd, my last comment on the whole matter:  Here's an analogy.  I hate Wal-Mart.  I will tell everyone and their mama that Wal-Mart sucks donkey balls.  I HATE IT.  But every once in awhile, the H or I need something at 2 am.  There are two options in our neighborhood:  Wait until morning, or go to Wal-Mart.  So... a few times a year, I have to go to Wal-Mart.  I still hate it. I think my point is... that sometimes E is boring, so I lurk on SB, because it's the only one with new posts.  That was a terrible analogy. ETA:  I don't need to defend posting on another board.  I can post wherever I want.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

You're right, this is a terrible analogy. A more fitting one would be if you had a group of friends: Let's call them Regina, Gretch, Karen, and Cady. You start up an unsolicited conversation with Regina, Gretch, and Karen about how much Cady sucks, is not funny or interesting, and how glad you are that you're not friends with her anymore.

Cady hears all of this because she's in the next room over. 5 minutes later you go over there and try to engage her in jokey conversation about feet. Do you think that Cady is more likely to <strong>a)</strong> give you a hug and talk about feet, or <strong>b)</strong> want to junkpunch you? And if she picks option b, is it likely because <strong>a)</strong> she's all those crappy things you said she was, or<strong> b)</strong> you're acting like a duplicitous, instigating bitch? 

Notice in this scenario how Regina, Gretch, and Karen didn't follow you to Cady's room, because like everyone else, they are totally over the drama.