Gift Card Shower Question

klg283

Hey everyone! I am getting married next Sept. ...so I have plenty of time. However, my fiance and I are both  going back to school and we will still be living an apt when our wedding comes...Anyway, we don't need things you typically put on a registry....so we were thinking a gift card registry to use when we were ready (which will hopefully be within the year preceeding that), Is this completely against etiquette??> I do not want to be inappropriate, but I also don't want a bunch of stuff I do not need......? Thanks everyone!

KG

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]Hey everyone! I am getting married next Sept. ...so I have plenty of time. However, my fiance and I are both altering going back to school and we will still be living an apt when our wedding comes...Anyway, we don't need things you typically put on a registry....so we were thinking a gift card registry to use when we were ready (which will hopefully be within the year preceeding that), Is this completely against etiquette?? /> I do not want to be inappropriate, but I also don't want a bunch of stuff I do not need......? Thanks everyone! KG
Posted by klg283[/QUOTE]

You don't need appliances? Towels? Sheets? Dishes? Utensils? Luggage? Curtains? Decor items? Small electronics?

We've been married almost 3 years, and I regularly use ALL of the items that we registered for, and we live in an apartment, and have since we got married.

I don't know how well a GC registry would go, so you may just want to consider registering for regular items, or not registering at all. People are more likely to give GCs and money if there's not registry, but you'll still get lots of items.

That's just me though.

Simply Fated

A shower is a party where people give you things. If you don't need anything, then don't have a shower lol.

HandBanana

Ditto PP.  We still live in an apartment but I definitely love having a complete set of flatware and plate settings to feed 16 people.  I also love my KitchenAid Stand Mixer, my sheets, pillows, etc.

Also, do not even worry about this until someone offer to throw you a shower.  When they do either say yes and register for gifts or decline the offer.  Do not register for gift cards because that is just registering for money.

libby2483

In Response to Re:Gift Card Shower Question:[QUOTE]Ditto PP.nbsp; We still live in an apartment but I definitely love having a complete set of flatware and plate settings to feed 16 people.nbsp; I also love my KitchenAid Stand Mixer, my sheets, pillows, etc.Also, do not even worry about this until someone offer to throw you a shower.nbsp; When they do either say yes and register for gifts or decline the offer.nbsp; Do not register for gift cards because that is just registering for money. Posted by HandBanana[/QUOTE]


This exactly. I would not register for gift cards, nor would I ever buy from a gift card registry. It is basically asking for money, which is rude. Are there items you can upgrade or just that aren't necessities, but would be fun to have?

Winnertag1

Don't do a gift card registry, that would come off as very rude as you are just asking for money. If you have absolutely nothing to register for, then dont register - and decline any showers if people offer to throw you any. If you don't register, most people will get the hint and probably give you cash gifts which you can put towards what you want. 

A point of a shower is to be showered in gifts, it would be very awkward to be showered in gift cards and for you to sit infront of all your guests and open the gift cards of varies amounts in front of them. 

misshart00

I don't really get the point of registering for gift cards because wouldn't you be buying stuff that you would put on a registry? Like if you registered for BBB gift cards, you would have to spend it on stuff there. Why not just make a registry there?

hoffse

I can't imagine that you literally have no space for the next year to use those items.  If you literally don't, either don't register or rent a storage unit for a few months.  They're not that expensive.  But don't register for just gift cards - you'll get plenty of gift cards even with a traditional registry.

Meegles4

How exactly do you see a gift card shower working? You just open them up one by one in front of everyone and saying "oh, Aunt Susie got us a Macy's gift card!", "oh, Jane got us a restaurant gift card", and on and on. Boring for the guests...and for you.

Just don't have a shower if you don't want stuff.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]How exactly do you see a gift card shower working? You just open them up one by one in front of everyone and saying "oh, Aunt Susie got us a Macy's gift card!", "oh, Jane got us a restaurant gift card", and on and on. Boring for the guests...and for you. Just don't have a shower if you don't want stuff.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

Or worse?

"WOW! Thanks for the $150 to BBB Aunt Sally!"
"Oh. And uhh, thanks for the $50 gift card Aunt Jane."

Holy awkward.

TheSlowskys

A lot of my friends that got married younger while still in apartments condos regret not registering for more things because of space.  None of them went the gift card route though.  They regret now registering for small appliances, cookware, etc. Renting a storage unit would likely be too much, but you can rent a smaller locker at a lot of places, or maybe leave some of the bigger things with your parents.

kaos16

I would imagine that with a traditional registry, especially not a huge one, there will be people who choose to get you gift cards for that particular store.  Additionally, if someone asks your mom, bridal party, etc. maybe they can mention that you are currently in an apartment while you finish school but that you look forward to getting a house within the year. . . . people aren't stupid, they'll likely think of gift cards or items that will work for your apartment now and future house too.

klg283

Thank you everyone for the feedback! I appreciate it, and do not want to be rude or offend anyone. As my family is looking into shower ideas it was something they had thrown out there, and I said I would do some research on that etiquette. We aren't doing a traditional shower of sitting in front of people doing gifts....it would be a coed cocktail hour type of shower...so it would eliminate that awkwardness, no opening of giftcards! That would be super weird! I love the idea of registering small....and sort of having the fam and bridal party "hinting" at a GC. 

Thanks again everyone~ much appreciated!

KG

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]Thank you everyone for the feedback! I appreciate it, and do not want to be rude or offend anyone. As my family is looking into shower ideas it was something they had thrown out there, and I said I would do some research on that etiquette. We aren't doing a traditional shower of sitting in front of people doing gifts....it would be a coed cocktail hour type of shower...so it would eliminate that awkwardness, no opening of giftcards! That would be super weird! I love the idea of registering small....and sort of having the fam and bridal party "hinting" at a GC.  Thanks again everyone~ much appreciated! KG
Posted by klg283[/QUOTE]

The purpose of the shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts. If you aren't going to open gifts, why have a shower?

klg283

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I have a question reguarding military uniforms....My fiance is not in the military, but two of his groomsmen are currently serving in Iraq. Is it proper to have them wear their dress uniforms for our wedding, even though it is not a military wedding? I personally do not care either way what they wear ( tux's or their uniforms) but I don't want to go against what is respecful. Thanks!