adults only wedding, recv'd RSVP with child's name added.. help!!!

cforgensi

I clearly wrote Mr. __ & Mrs. __ on the invitation and "adult reception immediately following" on the invitation.  I knew this would happen and plan on calling/emailing the couple to tell them we aren't inviting kids (too many kids = too $$$). 
How do I say this nicely????  Any ideas???

ahhhitsshannyn

Calm down. Just call and politely explain there was a misunderstanding, you cannot accommodate anyone other than the invitees. Be prepared that they may decline coming at all, but it was their mistake for RSVPing for uninvited guests.

bmoruzzi

Just say, "I'm sorry there's some confusion.  The wedding invite is for you and your husband.  We hope you'll be able to find someone to watch the kids and still come to our wedding."

dianemc10

call them up.

Hello! We received your reply. We're glad you're coming, however the invite was addressed to only you and X. Sorry the confusion. We hope you can still make it.

DramaGeek

We got your response today and are so excited you'll be able to celebrate with us!  Unfortunately we are unable to accomodate children.  We apologize for the inconvenience.

aragx6

It might be the adults only reception to follow part that confused them (as it is confusing me) -- so are kids invited to the ceremony?

mizjodi

Yeah, it'd be beating a dead horse to state that "adults only reception" should never be put anywhere on an invite, but what's done is done!

That being said, I agree with the PPs, just call, and politely, and in a friendly manner, clear up the misunderstanding!

jessicabessica

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_adults-only-wedding-recvd-rsvp-childs-name-added-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e968e397-0318-4ff5-bd51-cbe36b98f7b0Post:9b9629e9-3221-4484-a329-c26ee570a4b0">Re: adults only wedding, recv'd RSVP with child's name added.. help!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah,<strong> it'd be beating a dead horse to state that "adults only reception" should never be put anywhere on an invite, but what's done is done!</strong> That being said, I agree with the PPs, just call, and politely, and in a friendly manner, clear up the misunderstanding!
Posted by mizjodi[/QUOTE]

<div>Although this is a good example of why it's not worth being rude and putting it on the invitation.  </div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_adults-only-wedding-recvd-rsvp-childs-name-added-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e968e397-0318-4ff5-bd51-cbe36b98f7b0Post:1220b8d1-8fda-4d90-bb6a-e93f2891c283">Re: adults only wedding, recv'd RSVP with child's name added.. help!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]It might be the adults only reception to follow part that confused them (as it is confusing me) -- so are kids invited to the ceremony?
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

But the RSVP is FOR the reception.

I think they're just being passive-agressive.

NOLAbridealmost

Ugh. People who can't spend a night without their kids tick me off.

By any chance are the kids they RSVP'd for infants who are breast feeding?  You have to let folks bring breast feeding infants for a lot of really good biological and economical reasons. 

Otherwise, call them and give them a gracious explanation for why their kids aren't invited.