Have you ever cheated?

Rosie109

Have you ever cheated* in ANY relationship you have been in?

*Cheating for the purpose of the poll is lips on any other part of another person's body.

emilyinchile

I am not counting lips on cheeks, and you can't make me!

I would have cheated with everyone I've ever met in Chile, if that were the case.

Anysunrise

*Cough* Every relationship prior to FI and my most recent ex. But I was, you know, 14 then.

Rosie109

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[QUOTE]I am not counting lips on cheeks, and you can't make me! I would have cheated with everyone I've ever met in Chile, if that were the case.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

<div>aw shucks you found a hole in my well thought out poll.</div><div>
</div><div>Ignore this lady everyone else!</div>

Beachy730

I said no because I've never cheated on a boyfriend, or my H.  I did kiss another guy when I was just starting to talk to another guy, but we never ended up dating, so I don't think that counts.  

However, I hated my exBF so much by the end of our relationship, and he wouldn't let me break up with him and he just kept trying to insist on trying to make it work, and I seriously considered cheating on him just to make him go away.  But I never did.

doctabroccoli

Sort of.  I had what was supposed to only be a summer fling between high school and freshman year of college (that was mutually agreed upon), but we kept talking into the school year.  I did end up with a pseudo-boyfriend at college before the boy from home and I finally broke it off.  But I have never cheated on FI in 8+ years.

FutureMrsTR

I kissed a bunch of other guys while I was dating my ex.  I was unhappy in the relationship, too immature to do the right thing and just get out of it and also?  I liked kissing.  I can't imagine ever doing anything with anyone other than H.

[Deleted User]

once in high school. it was a bland 2-month relationship.

waltzingmatilda13

I said no, but it's really yes, but it's REALLY not my fault.

At my sister's b-party one of her friends who had always been flirty with me was messing around and asked for a kiss on his cheek. This is at the tail end of the night and lots of alcohol had been consumed. He knew I was in a serious relationship, but really didn't care, and turned his head at the last second. Lips touched, but it wasn't my fault! (I may be trying to convince myself here, too). All in all it was okay because it turned out that same BF cheated on me and I found out after we broke up just a few months later. Oh well.

DodgersBride

I haven't cheated.

I was however the other girl. I didn't know this guy I was talking to and hanging out with was kind of doing the same thing to another girl. I of course put a stop to it as soon as I found out.

louisvillebride21

Oh yeah. And I don't regret it one bit. It's kinda one of my high points. I was the awful, awkward teenager. Ugly as sin. I had a boyfriend Sophomore year of high school. It wasn't serious or long term. But I went to Vegas with my parents and I ended up meeting this older, gorgeous guy. We did everything but have sex (I was still a virgin then). I did promptly dump the guy when I got back home because I realized how much better it could be. But yeah, I cheated and look back on it fondly. Before I was engaged, it was kinda a fantasy memory lol

annakb8

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[QUOTE]I kissed a bunch of other guys while I was dating my ex.  I was unhappy in the relationship, too immature to do the right thing and just get out of it and also?  I liked kissing.  I can't imagine ever doing anything with anyone other than H.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

I kinda did this too. I think cheating usually happens when one person has already checked out of the relationship. It is not ok, and it would always be better to get out first but shiit happens. I think that if someone cheats it is a pretty good sign the relationship is over.

kcscejal

Once.  I kissed a guy while I was still with my ex.  It was dumb, and I felt terrible.  I broke up with my ex the next day.  The breakup was something I needed to do for a long time, but that's not how I should have ended it.

WildRumpus

No. I kissed a guy the day after FI and I decided to "take a break" in high school though

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I never physically cheated but I think I emotionally cheated on my last boyfriend.  I was with him for six years, and I am fairly certain I was still in love with Ben that whole time.  The last couple years of the relationship I talked to and got very close to Ben, and saw him A LOT.  Nothing ever happened, but I could tell he had feelings for me too, and being with him felt good.  I sought it out.  My ex was furious when he found out and accused me of cheating - even though *technically* nothing happened.

I kinda think he was right, but oh well

Snippylynn

No, never cheated, but I have been the other girl, so to speak.  But, the couple had already filed divorce papers, it just wasn't final though.

HOWEVER, I have been cheated ON by every boyfriend I've ever had.  Except for H.

louisvillebride21

Geeze, sounds like I'm the hoar here. That's very different.

LDYGTR13

I cheated with H while I was dating a guy that I was dating attempting to get over H when he broke up with me. (We dated for 9 months, broke up for a year and a half and got back together - we've been back together for 2.5 years now)

That was confusing. But yes. I've cheated. Because I'm a dirty dirty whore. j/k j/k.

mica178

Well, I feel like a horrible person.  I used to kiss other people as a way to get out of dead relationships in my teens and early twenties.  That all stopped in my early-to-mid 20s, though, and now I'm a "good" girl.

soontobeschooley

I've never cheated but I also have been the other woman.  Once when I was barely 20, if that.

Birdie1483

I cheated once, but I'm pretty sure he was already cheating on me. It doesn't justify my actions, but it makes me feel better about myself.

sarah0725

I've told this story on here before, but yeah, more or less. I was 17 and in college, and dating a guy who told me it was just him and me, but he also had another girlfriend at home. So he was cheating on me and being kind of emotionally abusive throughout our relationship, which lasted about six months. And toward the end of it I ended up making out with two of his friends. And one of them was FI. And then I ended up going out with the other guy for two years. And then FI and I got together. And ex-boyfriend is still with the other girlfriend, and FI and I see them socially, and he's going to be in our wedding party.

Life is confusing sometimes.

megk8oz

My ex and I did the "on again/off again" thing for 3 years. Pretty much every time we were "off", I'd hook up (Nothing past 2nd base) with somebody, hoping he'd become my new boyfriend and it would stop me from going back to my ex again. Yeah, I was totally mature like that.

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]I never physically cheated but I think I emotionally cheated on my last boyfriend.  I was with him for six years, and I am fairly certain I was still in love with Ben that whole time.  The last couple years of the relationship I talked to and got very close to Ben, and saw him A LOT.  Nothing ever happened, but I could tell he had feelings for me too, and being with him felt good.  I sought it out.  My ex was furious when he found out and accused me of cheating - even though *technically* nothing happened. I kinda think he was right, but oh well :)
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

~raises hand~ totally guilty of having an "emotional affair" ... with a guy that I later went on to marry.

[Deleted User]

Nope. Never really dated anyone except my H unless a few hs kinda sorta boyfriends count.

annagtz82

I was a pretty horrible cheater. Just about every relationship I was in prior to my relationship with my FI, I cheated. Every time I cheated, It got worse and worse. I won't go into details, but I was so bad that I was ashamed to confess what I had done to a priest in confession. I eventually did confess and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off of my shoulders.

When I started going out with my FI, I had plenty of chances to cheat but I didn't want to. It was different with him. I could never lie to him or disrespect him in such way becuase I loved him SOOO much.

ootmother2

Yes, but I think cheating is a somewhat harsh word for it.

I was seriously dating two guys at the same time and I just couldn't make the deciion to leave one and commit to the other.  Yes, it is possible, IMO, to be in love with thwo people at the same time.  Very sticky situation.

End result was that I left both.  My only real regret was that I hurt one of them pretty badly.  I'm not proud of that at all.

wiwicaty

Nope, I've had one relationship only in my life (with FI) and I never cheated.

annagtz82

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[QUOTE]Geeze, sounds like I'm the hoar here. That's very different.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

I can assure you that what I did was FAR worse. I was quite the little whore.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]Nope, I've had one relationship only in my life (with FI) and I never cheated.
Posted by wiwicaty[/QUOTE]

Seriously? People who get married after only being in one relationship scare me. I think it's because my dad was always all "there are lots of guys out there - meet them, date them, learn from them and move on."

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]Yes, but I think cheating is a somewhat harsh word for it. I was seriously dating two guys at the same time and I just couldn't make the deciion to leave one and commit to the other.  Yes, it is possible, IMO, to be in love with thwo people at the same time.  Very sticky situation. End result was that I left both.  <strong>My only real regret was that I hurt one of them pretty badly.  I'm not proud of that at all.</strong>
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

I do regret hurting my ex the way I did.  My ex was a selfish douche lord and the only time he ever wanted to pay any attention to me or work on our relationship was after I broke up with him - but the fact that I left him for someone else (and my ex HATED Ben before, nothing to do with me, either) really, really messed him up.  Even though he wasn't a good guy, I still feel bad about how it all went down.

ETA - *high five* to megk8oz :)