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My sister just started dating some random new guy.  I went from not hearing that she was dating to reading on FB that she's "in a relationship" last week.

My wedding is in less than 7 weeks.  I haven't met this guy.  My wedding is a little packed as is, invitations were already sent as we're marrying on a Sunday and a lot of guests are coming in from across the country or internationally.  Do I invite him/tell my sister she can have a guest.  Previously, as she wasn't in a relationship and is family and therefore knows most of my guests, she was not given a "+1," but does this new sprung love buy her one?

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  • I would give her the +1 since you have 7 weeks still.  there's bound to be a few RSVPs of "no". 
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  • I would say that since it isn't a long-term relationship, and she wasn't originally given a plus one, you're fine not inviting him.
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  • You didn't originally invite your own sister with a +1? I would let her bring him.
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    I don't think you HAVE to.  But this is your SISTER.  And it's only one person.  Just let her have the option of bringing him.

    To answer your question, I would let her bring him.
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  • I would let her bring him because if this relationship turns into (or already is) something serious it would really be starting things off on the right foot by including him in a family event. He may not actually want to come since they haven't been dating long. I skipped H's mother's wedding because we'd only been dating for a month and it would have been the first time I met any of his immediate family.
  • Okay.  I'll let her know he's invited.  She hasn't asked, but I know it's coming, so I'll just skip the awkward hinting and offer up the invitation.
  • Call your sister and ask her how she feels about it. Considering she hasn't actually told YOU that she is dating anyone I would A) leave things as they are or B) call her and ask her how she feels about it, and how he would feel meeting the WHOLE family for the first time all at once at such a big event.
  • Usually immediate family members get a +1 even if they're not in a steady relationship.  My sister is my MOH, and she's single, but she's bringing a girlfriend with her.
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  • My sister is my MOH, and she's friends with other people in the wedding party and a bunch of the guests.  When I was planning my list, she told me she didn't need a guest, so I didn't plan on it.  Now things have changed.  I'm meeting the guy next week, so at least he'll know the nuclear family, but I don't know if he'll want to come anyway, especially if he'll have to self-entertain during WP pictures.  But better to offer to invite him than to start out their relationship with feelings of exclusion.
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