Are they Necessary?

aquari0216

Hors D'ouevres. Are they absolutely necessary for a cocktail hour or can u do strictly cocktails. Its gonna be an extra $6 per person....so can we cut out the apps or should we scratch the cocktail hour altogether due to no hds? Ive never been to a wedding with a cocktail hour but seen plenty on TLC....so???

AddieCake

You don't have to have cocktail hour if you can serve dinner immediately, but if you have cocktails, you need food with them.

aquari0216

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_are-they-necessary?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec450bb4-b824-46c1-85ec-8d3ee9d5a010Post:76433f8d-47d4-441f-8ae4-6b51ea987d8d">Re: Are they Necessary?</a>:
[QUOTE]Heavy passed hors d'oeuvres are not necessary.  However, I would definitely serve something during the cocktail hour, even if it's cheese and crackers and a fruit tray.  Otherwise, you'll end up with tipsy guests from cocktails on an empty stomach. ETA: If you're listing this in programs, it's "hors d' oeu vres." Its a French word so the spelling is really tricky for English speakers who want to put O and U together.
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NO WORRIES.....Definitely wasnt putting in any programs....but I definitly understand avaiding too tipsy guests....thank you!

Kate61487

I attended a wedding last night actually with no food during the cocktail hour; there were some pretty unhappy guests (myself included; I skipped lunch and was starving).  But $6 a person seems pretty excessive. I'd definitely see if you can get a cheaper option.

MuppetOverlord

I personally would want SOMETHING. I'm typically starving by the time dinner comes at weddings.

Instead of paying $6 per person, can you say you want to spend $300 or $500 (whatever you are comfortable with) and they serve something that will accomodate that?

That's what I did for my first and present wedding. For my first wedding, I couldn't understand why they were charging $5 a person just for cut up cheese and finally I asked them to just come up with something for the budget I gave them. They did a crudite and dip platter, hummus  and homemade pita chips, some tomato and mozzarella skewers...and a few passed hors doeurves.  I also had some botles of wine on tables which kept most people satisfied with that alcohol wise which kept down my bar tab too.

CallaLily25

If you don't skip right to dinner, I'd say something small is definitely necessary to accompany cocktails.