Bridal shower guest list help

blankslate25

FMIL has let me know that 2 of her close family members/friends have mentioned throwing me a shower. To date, only one has contacted me and wants to do it early Feb (wedding is late April, this is the only shower on the books right now). There are 35-40 women in total that I would invite to a shower, so do I divide that list into 2 assuming that the other woman will contact me to plan a shower at a later date, or do I go ahead and invite all the women from my list? My objective is to not invite guests to multiple showers, and yet not end up snubbing others in the event that the other potential shower doesn't ever get off the ground?

jessienjeremy

That is touch. Since its not till February I would wait a little bit and see if someone mentions throwing another shower. If not, just send them all an invite. They all may not be able to come and if you have another shower. Maybe they can come to that one.

jessienjeremy

Tough*

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hlq2011

Ditto PP.  Wait a little while; the invites don't have to go out now, and with the holidays coming they probably shouldn't.  If no one says anything to you about another shower in the intervening time, just invite everyone to the one shower and call it a day.  If the other woman speaks to you about it later, tell her you've already accepted a shower being hosted by someone else.

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I would definitely wait awhile to see if the other lady comes around. Shower invites don't need to go out until about a month ahead of time or so. If she doesn't then don't divide the guest list, just invite all the people you wanted. Should the other lady decide to want to host one closer to the wedding or something, you can just decline it. Because more than likely the same people would be at the shower and that would look just a bit gift grabby.

mikeynkrib2011

You can't be sure the other person will offer to throw the shower...I'd suggest accepting the current offer!  Invite all the people you were planning on...and if the other person asks, politely decline!

P.S  I suggest this becuase my fiancee's aunt offered to throw our shower and then dropped off the radar.  If we waited around for her to bring it up again, well, it would have never gotten planned.  You've got an offer and a timeframe on the table...take it while it's there!  It's a gracious offer and if you invite half the desired guests then never get other shower you're anticipating half the folks will miss out!