Grandparent gift?

Summer2011Bride

So I am very close to my maternal grandparents; they're like second parents to me. They are paying for my wedding dress and chipping in for the reception with my parents. His parents are also paying for some stuff. So I would like to not only get our parents gifts and honor them at the rehearsal dinner, but I feel like I should do the same for my gparents that are also contributing. However, my paternal grandmother, as well as all his grandparents, will be at the rehearsal dinner but are not contributing.

Is it rude to only give something to my grandparents? Do we need to get something for all of them? Or do I not give mine anything at all, but then I think that's kind of rude to not acknowledge they helped out.

Beachy730

If you want to thank them specifically I would give them a gift in private.  We bought my parents and MIL the same silver wedding album to give to them at the RD.  But since my parents paid for most of our wedding we wanted to get them something really nice, without making MIL feel bad.  So we got them nice gifts and gave them to my parents at home before the RD.

SEWF

I would say to give them gifts if they contributed, just not at the rehearsal dinner. Maybe drop by their house or hotel room and thank them without the added audience. That way you are thanking them, but not making anyone else uncomfortable. If you do that, though, do the same with your parents, so your grandparents don't feel slighted at the dinner when the parents get gifts, but they don't.

I really hope this makes sense. It does in my head, but I'm not sure how well it translated...

Edited for stupid grammer mistakes...

sister2groom

If you want to thank them at the RD, you should probably thank all your grandparents more vaguely for "supporting you during this amazing time."